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not as much as most think, for a guy anyway - unless you are online dating. Appearance for a woman on the other hand, is the only thing that counts.
Ok. If you say so.
(maybe that's the problem with some of the men on here...they underestimate the importance of their appearance. The OP gets it...that's why he's asking.)
Of course it does, but a mediocre looking dude can still get plenty of dates if he's confident. The hottest guy ever will seem creepy to women if he as Aspergers or something.
(maybe that's the problem with some of the men on here...they underestimate the importance of their appearance. The OP gets it...that's why he's asking.)
I get that appearance is important. The way I look in the pics I posted is drastically different from the how I looked in high school and the first two years after I graduated. From 2004-2010 I looked scruffy, long uncut unkept hair, old worn out clean only 80% of the time clothes. Now I look good, smell good (thanks Old Spice Kimodo) and I feel better about who I am
It's funny how I always down talk the cities of Las Vegas and Los Angeles for focusing SO MUCH on how people's appearances are but in the end, I learned after my 2 years living in Vegas that yes your appearance DOES matter, its not everything, but it does matter. In my personal opinion, I don't care how confident you are...if you weigh more than 200 lbs (not muscle) haven't showered since Saturday, havent shaved, and are wearing a T-shirt that says "I'm With Stupid" you won't get very many dates
I'm not the most confident guy in the world but I certainly feel a lot better about myself than I used to. I look good I smell good, and I find it easier to make friends now than it used to be
My confidence is the issue though, and in a sense yeah thats why I made this thread. When my date this past weekend said I was "hot" I didn't believe her. I balked at it you could say. I balked at it because even though I look a lot better now than I used to, I still don't consider myself attractive because I have so much trouble when it comes to women and relationships, and my perpetual singleness makes me feel physically unattractive
If anybody is rejected by women as much as I have (I'm almost 23 and have only had 1 relationship), yeah eventually you'll begin to feel unattractive too and may not believe it when somebody says you're good looking, especially a member of the opposite sex
Davie, I'm glad you came back to this thread because you just humanized it.
Yes, appearance counts, but it isn't the whole thing.
I think what robertpolyglot said is very relevant: Someone who "grows into" their appearance approaches relationships differently than someone who already looked "good" as a young person.
There's still a human in there, people, popped collar or not.
My confidence is the issue though, and in a sense yeah thats why I made this thread. When my date this past weekend said I was "hot" I didn't believe her. I balked at it you could say. I balked at it because even though I look a lot better now than I used to, I still don't consider myself attractive because I have so much trouble when it comes to women and relationships, and my perpetual singleness makes me feel physically unattractive
I think most of us have told you that you're decently attractive but obviously your other qualities will come into play. You can be hot to one woman but not hot to another, so don't worry about that. You are attractive enough to get dates but you shouldn't rely on looks alone.
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The OP gets it...that's why he's asking.)
