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Old 08-28-2012, 03:00 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Ascension2012 View Post
Turns out, me and the widow poster have already worked the issue out and we are fine with the resolution, hope that makes you at ease. Im stating the obvious becasue so many CD posters tend to deny reality.
The point is that you assume. You assume that people who do not share values, culture, religion, upbringing, intellect, life experiences, etc with you hold your pov. Everybody must hold your, or bang, or whatever guy on this forum's pov. Your scope is so narrow. It's just mindless and shallow.

And I don't see CD posters denying their reality. They speak their reality quite frankly. I don't think you have the capacity or wisdom to speak for these people.

 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:09 PM
 
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Most guys that say things like this, do so because they either couldnt get laid with variety of different women, think that it takes more effort than it is worth to sleep with a veriety of women or simply couldnt get away with it. Provided, I have been in commited relationships before and have never cheated on my SO. Sex is substantialy better with someone you have increasing feelings for, no doubt about it. And i do recognize that some guys are perfectly happy in those types of relationships. So if thats you, good for you, congrats.
And you know this... how???
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:11 PM
 
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I just read this entire thread, and Ascension is derptastic.

It's a whole new spin on nice guy threads though. Never saw one of these before.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:13 PM
 
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Yes, we have.

I have a friend who has pretty good luck with dating but he wants a relationship and he's getting a lot of pressure to settle down as culturally he should have done so by now. He thinks he needs to adopt more of a PUA style and start being a d*** to women and treating them like s*** as that will lure them in to more than just dating. He's getting some pretty warped ideas as to what women want from whatever he's been reading IMO! As I told him, I can only speak 100% for myself. I've always been the good girl and yes, there is a part of me that wants to play with the bad boy. But at the end of the day, I want to marry the geek.

And I have a couple of male friends who I'd let do a lot more than just hold my handbag if only they were interested.
i actualy completely agree with your post. If your male friend is looking for a relationship, then PUA (which im not a big fan of anyway) or being a dick to women, is not the route he should be taking. All that is for guys who are looking for getting laid as much as they can, mostly with women in their 20s who are only looking for fun. The way you feel about bad boys and geeks or nice guys, is very common btw.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:15 PM
 
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I just read this entire thread, and Ascension is derptastic.

It's a whole new spin on nice guy threads though. Never saw one of these before.
Not sure what's happened to Ascension today

Maybe he got up on the wrong side of an empty bed, lol
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:22 PM
 
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Not sure what's happened to Ascension today

Maybe he got up on the wrong side of an empty bed, lol
I don't see how he's different from any other day. Same old same old.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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Just a few examples. No right or wrong answers.

Who do you think is more likely to have a more active and successful dating life?

A. A guy who's a reliable male friend to all of his female friends
B. A guy who has cheated on his last two girlfriends and has no female friends

A. A guy who holds his female friend's drink as she heads for the bathroom
B. A guy who drinks his female friend's drink as she heads for the bathroom and then says "Tasty!" upon her return

A. A guy who goes Christmas shopping and thinks of all the wonderful things he can buy for his loved ones
B. A guy who only makes one stop (at Best Buy) and buys himself a new flatscreen

A. A guy who helps his female friends move
B. A guy who never helps anyone move

A. A guy who responds "Yes" or No" if asked if he has a girlfriend
B. A guy who evades the question or responds "It's complicated" if asked if he has a girlfriend

Thoughts?
I thought it might be helpful to review the OP, since the discussion in parts seems to have gone off-topic. Why would a woman want to be with a guy who never helps anyone, doesn't think of others but only himself, is evasive if asked if he has a gf, and has a history of cheating? Well-adjusted women, and even women from abusive home backgrounds who want to avoid more of that like the plague, will choose the "A" type. Age makes no difference; women of all ages, including college women, choose A types. This has nothing to do with puppies, cutesy names, or pedestals. It's about people being considerate of each other. Most people who date expect this, or look for this. What's so hard to understand about why this would be attractive? It's dysfunctional to be drawn to people who are self-absorbed and mistreat others.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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Not sure what's happened to Ascension today

Maybe he got up on the wrong side of an empty bed, lol
Yeah, his so-called 'wisdom' isn't... uh, so 'wise' after all.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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I don't see how he's different from any other day. Same old same old.
True. This is how he is all of the time.
 
Old 08-28-2012, 03:24 PM
 
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I don't see how he's different from any other day. Same old same old.
But I've seen him be better than this - more insightful and not so hard and aggressive
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