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You're not getting it. I don't hang out or date these guys. I am a true, real woman. I am simply expressing my frustration at this behavior. I do say, "no thank you" and I have plenty of balls!
Again, where are you meeting these men?
This behavior sounds very much like drunken bar behavior.
You're not getting it. I don't hang out or date these guys. I am a true, real woman. I am simply expressing my frustration at this behavior. I do say, "no thank you" and I have plenty of balls!
I understande your frustration.
I do not even get into verbal exchanges in the first place with men like this. Or if I do, it's only once, and soon shut down.
no, not all of them. A couple of the married ones were actually guys I knew for a while. I don't know where they're coming from. Since I'm not actively looking for a bf, I'm just meeting them randomly as I go about my day.
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Are you meeting all these men in bars or something??
no, not all of them. A couple of the married ones were actually guys I knew for a while. I don't know where they're coming from. Since I'm not actively looking for a bf, I'm just meeting them randomly as I go about my day.
So some ARE in bars?
I am just trying to picture a man approaching you in the produce section of the grocery store at 5 in the afternoon and saying, hey, I'll cheat on my wife with you!
I have met a few in bars, but I'm not engaging in conversation that leads to them telling me this kind of stuff. I can go to a bar and still carry myself respectfully and I'm not on the prowl or anything. If I like them, we exchange numbers, etc. then it veers off course. that's when I shut then down.
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Again, where are you meeting these men?
This behavior sounds very much like drunken bar behavior.
no, that hasn't happened yet, but the married ones were guys I knew as friends. It had nothing to do with a bar.
and there are the online guys, they fall into this category also, where they say their wants and desires and I'm supposed to conform to that. Not that I do, I'm just saying that is frustrating.
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So some ARE in bars?
I am just trying to picture a man approaching you in the produce section of the grocery store at 5 in the afternoon and saying, hey, I'll cheat on my wife with you!
I have met a few in bars, but I'm not engaging in conversation that leads to them telling me this kind of stuff. I can go to a bar and still carry myself respectfully and I'm not on the prowl or anything. If I like them, we exchange numbers, etc. then it veers off course. that's when I shut then down.
Well, sorry, but that's what guys on the prowl in bars do.
Not saying you are doing anything wrong or to provoke their rude behavior.
Just saying you really might want to reconsider giving out your number to guys in that situation - they think you are giving them a green light to "go there" with you.
I have met a few in bars, but I'm not engaging in conversation that leads to them telling me this kind of stuff. I can go to a bar and still carry myself respectfully and I'm not on the prowl or anything. If I like them, we exchange numbers, etc. then it veers off course. that's when I shut then down.
In my experience most guys don't just throw this stuff out there unless they've "tested the water" first and perceived a tolerance/tacit encouragement.
In my experience most guys don't just throw this stuff out there unless they've "tested the water" first and perceived a tolerance/tacit encouragement.
Exactly.
I think she may not realize she is sending some of these guys certain signals.
well, it usually happens after the number has been given. So, if I had had some warning beforehand, I wouldn't have given my number in the first place.
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Well, sorry, but that's what guys in bars who are on the prowl do.
Not saying you are doing anything wrong or to provoke their rude behavior.
Just saying you really might want to reconsider giving out your number to guys in that situation - they think you are giving them a green light to "go there" with you.
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