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Old 09-01-2012, 02:01 PM
 
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How common is this? 4 months ago, she broke up with her bf after an 8 year relationship (they met in college) and started meeting guys from online. Last night, I found out from her best friend that she's slept with at least 30 guys during that time period.

I realize chicks usually go through withdrawal after a breakup, but is this kind of withdrawal extremely abnormal or what? Anyone know someone else like this?

 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:03 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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She's been a busy girl.




 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:10 PM
 
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That works out to a new guy every 4 days. Are you sure the friend wasn't exaggerating?

I don't really judge about sexual exploits, but if this was a man or a woman I would be very concerned, if only because she's sleeping with guys she doesn't know and hasn't vetted at all.

What precipitated the breakup?
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:15 PM
 
Location: H-Tine, Texas
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Old 09-01-2012, 02:24 PM
 
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Originally Posted by JrzDefector View Post
That works out to a new guy every 4 days. Are you sure the friend wasn't exaggerating?

I don't really judge about sexual exploits, but if this was a man or a woman I would be very concerned, if only because she's sleeping with guys she doesn't know and hasn't vetted at all.

What precipitated the breakup?
Didn't sound like she was and the girl in reference is a teacher so she's had the summer off so it's quite possible for her to meet up with guys multiple times per week. She said her friend is on multiple dating sites looking for a relationship, but she just ends up having sex.
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:29 PM
 
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If she was in an 8 yr relationship and if they just split, her sex antics don't sound like she's coping well with the break up.

I couldn't imagine screwing around that much and that soon after having a relationship that long with someone.

I guess some people deal with things differently.

IDK.
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I don't think any of my friends have had sex with 30 men - much less in such a short period of time!
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:30 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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How many posts and OP's have we had complaining about women being too tight with their favors, asking why they can't give it up more easily, and complaining that women "control access to sex"? For those of you who fall into that category of poster, Gentlemen: this (OP's description) is what your dream woman looks like. Deal.
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:32 PM
 
Location: North NJ by way of Brooklyn, NY
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Sounds like her self esteem is in the dumps. She shouldn't be looking for a date after coming out of an 8 year relationship, she should be concentrating on herself and taking a break from dating. Some women get used to the attention they get in a relationship, so when it ends they still seek that attention from a man. Unfortunately, some will accept any attention, even the wrong kind such as being used for sex.

You might want to have a long talk to her as to why she is doing this. It seems she could be acting out or desperate for any male attention.
 
Old 09-01-2012, 02:33 PM
 
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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How many posts and OP's have we had complaining about women being too tight with their favors, asking why they can't give it up more easily, and complaining that women "control access to sex"? For those of you who fall into that category of poster, Gentlemen: this (OP's description) is what your dream woman looks like. Deal.
Sadly, some men view women in one of two categories:

1) Too loose

2) Too prude

Seems like there can be no in-betweens. Ladies, sometimes you can't win, so just be true to yourself and you will never lose.
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