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I would be pointing you out to my husband but not taking your photo but at your height without the heels you are more than a foot taller than me naturally. If the guy had walked up while your husband was there I would say he was curious but since he waited until your husband walked away definitely more than curious in my opinion.
Are you unusually tall without the heels? What did your husband make of it? You say it's not unusual for strangers to take photos of you with their phones? Do people really do this? I've never heard of this. It sounds really odd, especially for the girls to be taking pictures of you. Sorry, I have no answers, only questions.
That's what I was thinking. Is it only when you wear heels? Something about you is majorly sticking out for girls to take pics of you with their cells. Never had a girl do that to me...
Do you regularly hang around NBA locker rooms or something? That's 7" taller than the average woman in the US, and 3" taller than the average man. Maybe you're simply delusional...
You wouldn't be the first to call me delusional.
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I could be wrong, but I'm guessing that the guys were talking about your height, liked it, deemed you to be a classy, intelligent woman, and decided to pass you the compliment.
Thanks Chessie. Intelligent? LOL...you must have missed my spelling error in the title. Then again looking and actually being are two different things.
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I agree with spinx. He waited until your husband walked away, then tried to play it smooth when he returned. I'm guessing he was testing the waters, seeing if there was an opening.
But do men really "test the waters" when a girl has been with the same man the whole evening?? It's not as if I was with other people either and "might" be with the guy, although I sometimes wonder if people question whether we're really together because I am taller than him.
And I can see why a guy would be hesitant to compliment or ask a woman something when she's standing with a guy.
If I was of average height, I think it would be more clear of the reason why they're approaching me, but being that I'm "unique" in a sense and I'm frequently approached by men about my height (in nightlife settings anyway.)
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If I caught a ho taking my picture I'd march right up to her and ask her wtf she thinks she's doing.
I can't fathom just...um...ignoring it?
Unless you're a fame *****, what a hideous invasion of privacy!
I cannot think of one earthly reason to be ok with this???
It's a hard accusation to make against someone. What am I going to do...demand to see their phone pics??? My husband and I go out on "date nights" to enjoy ourselves, we're not looking to get into a confrontation with other patrons, which is what will happen if we question them. So all I can do is make them aware by looking at them directly after the fact. I can't predict who's going to snap pics before it happens. I can only avoid the photos as I see them happening and try and shut it down afterwards.
And I'm not "ok" with it. In fact it's been getting harder for me. I've even stated to my husband that I thought being tall would get easier as I got older, not the opposite. What I do is try and keep perspective on it. In the grand scheme of things...they want to mock me because I'm "tall" or "taller than my husband," I can think of worse things to have to deal with in life.
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W.T.F.
In Australia, you'd call security and have them thrown out.
That's appalling behaviour.
Again, it's a tough accusation to make against someone and they're response will likely be "we were just taking pictures of each other and our friends. She/they just happened to be in the shot."
It's immature behavior and I often question how people were raised where they think that's acceptable, but it's just the way it is. All I can do is deal with it.
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That's what I was thinking. Is it only when you wear heels? Something about you is majorly sticking out for girls to take pics of you with their cells. Never had a girl do that to me...
Yeah, something is sticking out...me. I'm tall. I'm taller than my husband. I guess that makes me photo worthy.
I wear heels in general, especially when I'm out. Maybe if I stopped wearing heels they'd stop snapping pics, but that ain't gonna' happen...unless I'm in my casket and then I definitely won't give a crap about someone snapping my pic. LOL
Let me preface with that I generally know when people are talking about me, snapping pics on their cell phones of me or me and my husband, etc..
Last month my husband and I went out for drinks to a popular night spot. I was wearing 5" heels that night, so I was considerably taller than my husband...and the rest of the crowd for that matter.
There was a guy at the bar talking with a woman who looked to be 20+ years his senior. It didn't look romantic by any means, just chatting to pass the time. He was there with another guy who was chatting it up with two younger girls. About 10 minutes after my arrival, these younger girls were taking photos of me on their cell phones, but I'm not sure if the men were aware of it as they weren't with the girls at that time. I could tell though that I was the topic of their conversation at some point during the night.
My husband walked away to get a drink at the bar while I stood by our table. The guy who had been talking with the older woman came up to me and introduced himself. From there he was telling me how he was impressed and thought it was great that I was in heels because he never sees tall woman wearing them and that we should...yada, yada, yada. I smiled and told him "Yeah, I like them and my husband encourages me to wear them" because I was unsure if he was just curious or interested. He started going on about he and his friend really liked it and I questioned "You mean to tell me you're not mocking me?!" (At the time I was unsure of what was being discussed about me with the other guy and the girls who had been snapping my photo.) He exclaimed "No! Anything but!" At that point my husband had returned. The guy introduced himself to my husband, paid him a compliment in regards to me, wished us a great night and returned to his friends.
So my question is...is he or his friends just curious about my height? Or is that a way of just testing the waters?
Obviously this isn't the first time something like this has happened to me, which is why I'm asking. I mean if a guy offers to buy me a drink, its pretty obvious he's interested, but it's situations like above that I have difficulty gauging.
But do men really "test the waters" when a girl has been with the same man the whole evening?? It's not as if I was with other people either and "might" be with the guy, although I sometimes wonder if people question whether we're really together because I am taller than him.
Yes indeed, there's no shortage of disrespectful assclowns that will attempt to hit on you even though you are with someone. Granted, there is a small chance he didn't know you were a married couple, however, if he took a moment to look at the rock on your finger he'd be able to do the math and carry on about his business somewhere else.
When you are out in public with your husband are you at all affectionate or do you hold hands, put your arms around one another, are you playful or do you look happy together? Some guys try to pick up on a woman's body language when she is with another man. If she doesn't look happy they take that as an opening to test the waters. Sad but true.
Let me preface with that I generally know when people are talking about me, snapping pics on their cell phones of me or me and my husband, etc..
Last month my husband and I went out for drinks to a popular night spot. I was wearing 5" heels that night, so I was considerably taller than my husband...and the rest of the crowd for that matter.
There was a guy at the bar talking with a woman who looked to be 20+ years his senior. It didn't look romantic by any means, just chatting to pass the time. He was there with another guy who was chatting it up with two younger girls. About 10 minutes after my arrival, these younger girls were taking photos of me on their cell phones, but I'm not sure if the men were aware of it as they weren't with the girls at that time. I could tell though that I was the topic of their conversation at some point during the night.
My husband walked away to get a drink at the bar while I stood by our table. The guy who had been talking with the older woman came up to me and introduced himself. From there he was telling me how he was impressed and thought it was great that I was in heels because he never sees tall woman wearing them and that we should...yada, yada, yada. I smiled and told him "Yeah, I like them and my husband encourages me to wear them" because I was unsure if he was just curious or interested. He started going on about he and his friend really liked it and I questioned "You mean to tell me you're not mocking me?!" (At the time I was unsure of what was being discussed about me with the other guy and the girls who had been snapping my photo.) He exclaimed "No! Anything but!" At that point my husband had returned. The guy introduced himself to my husband, paid him a compliment in regards to me, wished us a great night and returned to his friends.
So my question is...is he or his friends just curious about my height? Or is that a way of just testing the waters?
Obviously this isn't the first time something like this has happened to me, which is why I'm asking. I mean if a guy offers to buy me a drink, its pretty obvious he's interested, but it's situations like above that I have difficulty gauging.
Men do this to test the waters. Its an easy way to approach you to gather more info (boyfriend, husband etc...) It's also a good conversation starter. If you want to lower a woman's guard then compliment them on something that they've actually done like nice clothing, makeup, how they smell, accessories, etc. Don't walk up to her saying how hot she is lol
It's a hard accusation to make against someone. What am I going to do...demand to see their phone pics??? My husband and I go out on "date nights" to enjoy ourselves, we're not looking to get into a confrontation with other patrons, which is what will happen if we question them. So all I can do is make them aware by looking at them directly after the fact. I can't predict who's going to snap pics before it happens. I can only avoid the photos as I see them happening and try and shut it down afterwards.
And I'm not "ok" with it. In fact it's been getting harder for me. I've even stated to my husband that I thought being tall would get easier as I got older, not the opposite. What I do is try and keep perspective on it. In the grand scheme of things...they want to mock me because I'm "tall" or "taller than my husband," I can think of worse things to have to deal with in life.
This may well be a cultural difference.
I have noticed before that Australians seem far more concerned with things like privacy and security.
Maybe because we don't have the same "famous for 15 minutes" mindset.
Here, the photographers would be the ones thrown out.
All you would do is approach security, have a quiet word, and security will ask them to leave. That's it. no big deal. you may not even have to do that as aussies like to party in private and security would be watching and removing ppl taking unrelated pics.
In a lot of places you arent even allowed to take a picture, of ANYTHING. The casino is one. you will be tossed out before you know it.
Again, it's a tough accusation to make against someone and they're response will likely be "we were just taking pictures of each other and our friends. She/they just happened to be in the shot."
Security here are within their rights to search bags, and request you show them whats on your phone. if you refuse, thats your right too, but you will be out on your arse in a quick second. they dont mess around.
we just dont tolerate rudeness here. taking someones photo uninvited would be considered the HEIGHT of rudeness...and a security issue. you even have to sign a consent form for your kids school class photo to be taken.
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If I caught a ho taking my picture I'd march right up to her and ask her wtf she thinks she's doing.
I can't fathom just...um...ignoring it?
Unless you're a fame *****, what a hideous invasion of privacy!
I cannot think of one earthly reason to be ok with this???
I don't know about the exact legality of taking photos of strangers. Obviously, sometimes strangers happen to be in the frame, but what of just taking people as your photographic subjects without their permission? I heard there's technically no law against it, I mean when I go travelling sometimes I do take pics of just people I meet/see, and it's not always possible to ask for permission, but I'm getting a bit off topic.
If it's quite obvious, I would ask them, politely, 'am I that interesting?' and see how they react. I mean if you're just at a bar and they're just taking pics of you, you, of course, deserve some sort of explanation. You could always take it into your own hands, take photos of them back - but I mean what would be the point. It is juvenile and audacious, but unfortunately, that's one of the dangers of facebook. Someone who doesn't like you can take a pic or a video of you in a compromising situation and in seconds it could be all over the internet. Don't go around making too many enemies.
I don't know about the exact legality of taking photos of strangers. Obviously, sometimes strangers happen to be in the frame, but what of just taking people as your photographic subjects without their permission? I heard there's technically no law against it, I mean when I go travelling sometimes I do take pics of just people I meet/see, and it's not always possible to ask for permission, but I'm getting a bit off topic.
Tri, I do this, too, but more as a reference to the "local" populace and not for curiosity/hit on value. For me, it's more of a National Geographic thing. Also, they are never face-on photos. They tend to be walking by photos, oftentimes moving. They are in my travel albums.
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Intelligent? LOL...you must have missed my spelling error in the title. 
