When do you give up on relationships? (boyfriend, girlfriends, marry)
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stop looking and just enjoy life. if you allow this to happen "love" will find you naturally
I'm not one to believe that love finds everyone eventually. I am keeping busy and this guy is someone I didn't know existed until I started getting busy.
Did you read what I wrote to you in my longer post above?
"you need to learn and fine tune some better coping skills for the disappointments that inevitably come our way when we are dating.
There is just no reason to let the heartbreak of one romance render you so incapacitated!"
It's not just one it's a string of them. Guys that I liked but had no interest, guys that liked me but I had no interests, guys I dated who hurt me, guys who were freaks, etc.
It's not just one it's a string of them. Guys that I liked but had no interest, guys that liked me but I had no interests, guys I dated who hurt me, guys who were freaks, etc.
I feel like I am talking to someone who doesn't speak English
Unrequited love (or like) is more common than requited love. To experience it is just part of life, everyone does. And, yes, some people are lucky and find requited love quickly and don't have to experience the unrequited repetitively, but not everyone is so lucky. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not alone and what you feel is natural. If you feel drained you can take a break from dating and relationships to recharge but you can't totally give up.
I had a string of horrible situations in my 20s and gave up dating for years while I concentrated on school (college and grad)and then my career. I then started doing online dating to no great success at all (a few very short lived situations and most others were dates). That is until I reconnected with an old friend. I originally met him when I was going through a messy breakup and at the time he was fine with being friends. We stayed friends for a few years but lost touch as time went on. I found him via Facebook, we briefly dated but then he said he didn't want a relationship. Stupidly I thought if I gave him space he would eventually come back and he never did and I was devastated. It took me more time to get over him than the time we dated. At that time I vowed no more relationships and didn't date for a year or so. However I did put a profile on Plenty Of Fish but no one good contacted me (mostly dads which I don't date). I decided this year I would search out my future husband so I tried a paid site. I met a really great guy but he lives 5 hours away and is 10 years younger. We chat via email and when he comes here (he comes for business every few months)we hang out at the mall. Other guys around my age were seeking much younger women and I was getting contacted by men older than my dad (ew gross). My membership expired and I didn't renew. I started a new profile on POF (my last one was deleted) and met one guy around my age who seemed cool but he said he felt no chemistry.
Anyway, I met a guy in June and still at the "does he like me or not" stage. He fits what I am seeking in a mate (oddly so did my last ex)and most of the guys I met online didn't. I have no way of knowing whether he's interested (I suspect he is but I'm not 100% sure)but this time have vowed that this is it. I can't go through another heartbreak like I did before. This has been my pattern of having guys not like me but guys like me I have zero interest in. I'm not ugly at all, so why this always happened no idea. Love is supposed to be wonderful not hurtful and I'd rather be alone than go through it again.
Did anyone else ever decide never again?
Yep, as I hear this bolded statement more and more, I realize more and more that being a single dad is pretty much finality.
Yep, as I hear this bolded statement more and more, I realize more and more that being a single dad is pretty much finality.
No. Single moms will date single dads and if you read this forum there are some women without children who also would date a single dad.
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