Need a debate settled..

[Chowhound]

I recently had a couple of 10 yr old girls flirt with me, one of them said that they liked my ponytail. The other giggled.

I'm an old dude and practically married.

Wonder if this counts in the great debate......

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Miss J 74

So we know the old Murphy's Law:

When you're single, it's almost as if no one pays any attention to you. But the minute you're in a relationship, all of a sudden people start hitting on you.

So the BF and I are having this happen to us, but we slightly disagree on WHY this happens.

His theory is that your attitude changes, you're more confident, even if slightly and people (or at least women) notice this.

My theory is you're no longer checking people out anymore, or at least as much as you used to, because you're in a relationship. So now you're going about your business, doing your own thing, and may seem more approachable as opposed to someone looking almost desperate.

While our theories are kind of on the same wavelength, because we agree it boils down to how you carry yourself while in a relationship vs single, he thinks the opposite sex can automatically sense when you're in a relationship, while I say no.

What do you guys say?

Actually, I think you are both right

[Pikake]

I don't hit on men who are taken because I don't see the point in it. Taken to me, means unavailable.

Maybe I'm just an oddity. Oh .

I do have a few guy friends who are in relationships and they get hit on all the freaking time. My friend T was out with his then fiancee and some chick hit on him in front of his fiancee. I thought there was going to be fight, luckily it didn't escalate into one.

[Miss J 74]

Originally Posted by Pikake

I don't hit on men who are taken because I don't see the point in it. Taken to me, means unavailable.

Maybe I'm just an oddity. Oh .

I do have a few guy friends who are in relationships and they get hit on all the freaking time. My friend T was out with his then fiancee and some chick hit on him in front of his fiancee. I thought there was going to be fight, luckily it didn't escalate into one.[

I would have said to her "what makes you think he would want anything to do with someone who is so clearly rude & disrespectful?"

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by Miss J 74

While our theories are kind of on the same wavelength, because we agree it boils down to how you carry yourself while in a relationship vs single, he thinks the opposite sex can automatically sense when you're in a relationship, while I say no.

What do you guys say?

I agree with what I bolded. I don't believe people can "sense when you're in a relationship". That's just silly.
It's the change that the relationship has on you. That is what makes you seem more appealing.