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Say you can't find someone fitting what you desire, would you rather be single or settle? I would rather be single than date a dad, or someone not Christian (preferably Catholic)or someone unable or unwilling to marry in church.
Every has to "settle," at least to some extent. No two people are ever 100% compatible. Even someone you love to death is going to anger, frustrate or disappoint you at times. The question is not whether you settle. The question is, what are you willing to settle for?
Every has to "settle," at least to some extent. No two people are ever 100% compatible. Even someone you love to death is going to anger, frustrate or disappoint you at times. The question is not whether you settle. The question is, what are you willing to settle for?
Good point. But the word "settle" has such a negative connotation to it--atleast for me anyway. I'd rather call it compromising. Nothing's perfect but when you look at the whole picture, some things are worth making a compromise about in regards to dating long term.
Settling to me tends to mean, "I'm running out of options let me take what I can get"
Compromising is moreso finding balancing, taking the good with the bad according to what is best for you as a person. Recognizing that no one is perfect including self. The key is who is likely to keep on loving me and encouraging me to grow as a person even through my imperfections, and recognizing whether or not I am willing to do the same for that person.
Every has to "settle," at least to some extent. No two people are ever 100% compatible. Even someone you love to death is going to anger, frustrate or disappoint you at times. The question is not whether you settle. The question is, what are you willing to settle for?
I think you're reading too much into this question. Do you want to be alone or have a partner? Nothing to do with all those negative emotions and so forth.
Personally, I voted "settle". I'm surprised most chose "alone".
But understand, too, that the perfect partner/lover/spouse doesn't exist and they never will. No one is perfect. Successful relationships invariably involve compromise, give-and-take, and overlooking some flaws because other traits and characteristics shine and resonate.
What's more, people often change over time. The fundamentals of our character and personality usually remain the same. But stuff happens, life happens.
Because it's better than being alone. If I was with a woman I didn't really like, I'd still stay with her, because being alone would feel far worse. I'd feel better having someone than no-one. It's boring and depressing sharing life with just yourself. I wouldn't let it show though if I didn't like her. I'd just act like I'm happy. if I did settle I don't think i'd regret it
I think there is a difference between settling and compromising. When you settle, you basically try to accept and ignore, or bury things that you dislike. When you compromise, you basically accept and move on from things you dislike. This is a big distinction too, since there are things you won't be able to compromise on and forget, so if you settle on those issues, they will eat away at you and your relationship until they come back as a major problem!
Compromising is definately part of good relationships. Settling is much more difficult to live with and make work.
Learn yourself, and what you are willing to compromise on and not have it ever be a background issue. Go forward from there.
I think there is a difference between settling and compromising. When you settle, you basically try to accept and ignore, or bury things that you dislike. When you compromise, you basically accept and move on from things you dislike. This is a big distinction too, since there are things you won't be able to compromise on and forget, so if you settle on those issues, they will eat away at you and your relationship until they come back as a major problem!
Compromising is definately part of good relationships. Settling is much more difficult to live with and make work.
Learn yourself, and what you are willing to compromise on and not have it ever be a background issue. Go forward from there.
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