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I went on a date with a cute guy to a karaoke bar Friday night. We had fun and he asked me to hang out again Sunday night. We saw a movie Sunday at a movie theater ( not at his house). Anyway, I think he is sweet sensitive and a cool guy. He gave me flowers on our first date. He didn't push sex but he tried to make out and stuff. So we kissed, no sex.
My dilemma is he is a musician on the side. He has a full time job that pays really well so making money from being a musician is not a problem. He is a nurse during the day and does music gigs at night. He has a band. He is the lead singer and he plays a guitar as well. It kinda bothers me tho that he does this heavy rock music. He's sweet and sensitive but his music is opposite of him. He's very attractive too so I know he gets a lot of girls attention. Music is his passion. He sings pretty good, actually. His band is trying to make it big. I think they have potentials to get there. He said when it happens, he would quit his job.
So I'm not sure if I will proceed. Am I potentially putting myself to be heartbroken later if I keep dating him?
why would u be heart broken any more from this guy then anyone else?
Because we musicians have a *reputation* supposedly. I will tell you this though, if he is really serious and passionate about his music it will be more important than you are. Don't make him choose between the two, not unless you want to be a Yoko Ono type band killer.
He's a good singer and very attractive. Musician gets girls easy especially if they sing good attractive and have money. Nurses make good money.
My friends said that I'm lucky that he likes me cause alot of girls would want to be with a guy who can sing, who can play, who is educated and makes a good living and sweet all in one package. But that's what bothers me that he may break my heart cause he's a "good catch" to most girls.
Friggin singers always get the girls. All they do is show up with a microphone and look pretty and act bad boy, the rest of us actually have to bust are ass.
Musicians (at least those in bands--you're probably safe if he plays the tuba) are in my "Danger! Proceed with Caution!" category. It may sound fun now, but you're dealing with someone who'll often be out late (at bars, around drunk women,) always practicing and/or with an inconvenient/inflexible schedule, and your date nights will fairly often be you tagging along to wherever he's playing that night.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 12-03-2012 at 01:26 PM..
Musicians (at least those in bands) are in my "Danger! Proceed with Caution!" category. It may sound fun now, but you're dealing with someone who'll often be out late (at bars, around drunk women,) always practicing and/or with an inconvenient/inflexible schedule, and your date nights will fairly often be you tagging along to wherever he's playing that night.
This is true, which why I don't actively look for a special other in my life, no real time for it. Other musicians might be able to balance out a woman and their lifestyle, I can't specially working a full time day job on top. Then again a singer doesn't have to practice as hard as the guys who play instruments.
He's a good singer and very attractive. Musician gets girls easy especially if they sing good attractive and have money. Nurses make good money.
My friends said that I'm lucky that he likes me cause alot of girls would want to be with a guy who can sing, who can play, who is educated and makes a good living and sweet all in one package. But that's what bothers me that he may break my heart cause he's a "good catch" to most girls.
I've shared my story about the first time I met my wife but I'll share it again.
I met her, we chatted briefly, and when I left the wine bar where we met she was sitting at the center of a semi-circle of three or four guys. I said to myself "I'll never have a chance." But I stuck with it.
Don't write yourself off just because of what might be. Yes, you may have your heart broken, but if we go through life worrying we're going to have our heart broken, we will never be able to open ourselves up to all the possibilities of life.
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All they do is show up with a microphone and look pretty and act bad boy, the rest of us actually have to bust are ass.
Then again a singer doesn't have to practice as hard as the guys who play instruments.
