Need advice about the affair I'm having

[malamute]

Originally Posted by brokencrayola

The title of your thread is "Need advice about the affair I'm having." First of all you haven't had sex with her, so there is no affair. If you were sleeping together SHE would be the one having the affair, not you. You would just be in a bad relationship. There is a child involved and a boyfriend. You need to back out of this situation. If she wants to be with you it will be up to her to end that relationship with her boyfriend. End it now before it gets any messier.

Also apparently no one is married so there is no adultery, no affair even if he did have sex with her. This is just a woman who jumps from man to man, doesn't end one relationship before starting another and a new knight in shining armor coming to rescue her.

I think she sounds like a loser -- my advice would be to find someone in a better situation. But changing lovers or having several lovers isn't the same as married people having an affair.

[Jasper03]

I would extricate myself from this situation if I were you. Even if he is all of the horrible things she says he is...what does it say about her that she stays? At best she is weak and needs to latch on to another man before she has the courage to leave a bad situation. Worse case scenario he is not as bad as she claims and she turns out to be a devious user. I think she won't be a good partner unless she gets it together. You need to leave her alone and don't get involved in the child's life.

I also think you shouldn't be meeting her child. Introducing your child to the person you're cheating with is beyond tacky.