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She ticks all the boxes. But am already in a relationship.
Don't worry I would never cheat. Thats not what this thread is about.
My point is this.....at this point she doesn't know I'm not single.
Next time I see her I plan to tell her. Ideally if my current relationship was to fail (which obviously I don't plan on but you never know) I would date her. Note my current LTR is only my second LTR in my life. So wouldn't say I'm a fountain of knowledge on the subject.
I am thinking about saying something along the lines of "I would date you in a heartbeat If I were single".
Thoughts on saying this to her?
I am not sure I would tease her like that, by telling her a line about how you would date her, but...
How confident are you really in your present relationship? It doesn't sound to me like you are all that confident it is something that is really going to last. Has their been troubles? Are you unhappy?
In what circumstances would you see her again? It sounds like you are looking for trouble.
I'm doing a job on her property.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
I mean, are you in a long-term relationship or not? Only YOU can decide. Don't try to put this new person "on hold" by teasing with her.
As they say, if you don't want to fall off the cliff, don't walk next to the edge.
Fair call. However my point wasn't with the intent of teasing her. Rather a compliment. Finding people you are compatible with is not easy. That said, under the circumstances its probably not appropriate.
Good lord NO don't tell her that. I can think of nothing more appalling than someone working on my property telling me he's in a relationship but would date me if he were single. I. Don't. Want. To. Know.
If you were single, fine - ask her out respectfully. But you just come off as a creep and unsettling if you're saying "hey, i'd like to bang you, but I'm hampered by a relationship." You're also telling her that if she gets involved with you, you might find something you like better on your next job.
Honestly, if this woman "ticks all the boxes," what does your current girlfriend do? Are you just holding on to her because of the "bird in the hand" principle or because you honestly, genuinely want to be with HER?
Seriously, just don't even say anything. Any subtle advances that come your way just brush them off and don't reciprocate. If she lunges at you to kiss you, politely tell her that you are currently dating someone. Then you can back that up with a "your great and I would date you if I was single" type of saying. Simply assuming she is into you and mentioning to her that your taken and then saying if you ever "become" single you will let her know is just weird. Let her flirt with you and dont do anything in return.
don't tell her anything. Relationships are all about timing. You say something now, she will put that in her mind, so if anything ever happens, she will remember you hitting on her while you were in a relationship. Cause, YOU ARE hitting on her! You feel, I've got nothing to lose, she turns me down, I still go home to my SO, she accepts, I may have a FWB
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