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No woman is intimidating. That's just some self defense mechanism women make up whenever a guy isn't into them.
Interesting theory. The only people I've hard attribute the term "intimidating" to women have been men.
This forum is different from others where I've seen this topic discussed. The guys on other forums all agree it's a woman's looks; if she's really pretty, at the least, or both pretty and curvy, they freeze, so they say. They become incapable of speech.
No woman is intimidating. That's just some self defense mechanism women make up whenever a guy isn't into them.
You do have a point. There are some women that are just plain unpleasant, and come up with the excuse "men can't handle me", when the truth is that people just don't want to.
You also say "No woman is intimidating". I have to agree. In reality, no woman is.
The real problem is that we are projecting our own insecurities onto others.
How do you know they're really intelligent, educated and successful when you're only meeting them for the first time? Does their T-shirt say so? or do you often meet well-known scholars of businesswomen whose reputation precedes them?
Just wondering how it works.
I ski and sail. I've traditionally been the senior technical guy in a metro-Boston high tech startup. I encounter professional and executive women all the time both in my leisure activities and professionally. Surgeons. Corporate lawyers. Venture capitalists. Investment bankers. Corporate execs. Everybody is on LinkedIn so you know their academic and career credentials.
When I meet someone like that who is single and I'm attracted to them, I'm too intimidated to do anything about it. I've spent my whole life first in the academic world and then in corporate competing to be the best. When I meet someone and their credentials blow mine out of the water, it triggers my insecurity.
I can't be the only person where this happens. I think something like this had a lot to do with the Presidential election results. Men have a tough time with smart, successful women. Men can accept another male who is better than they are at something because it happens all the time in sports.
I can't be the only person where this happens. I think something like this had a lot to do with the Presidential election results. Men have a tough time with smart, successful women. Men can accept another male who is better than they are at something because it happens all the time in sports.
Has someone mentioned "projection" yet on this thread?
There is a lid for every pot. Growing up and getting your life together, for those who choose to do so, can do wonders, and it's not limited to the area of dating. I would think that a man is intimidated by a woman's looks (genetic lottery) or the money she makes, however I think he would find a way to deal with both? Stop being a competition with each other and learn to be a team.
Women are not intimidating. You may be afraid of approaching her because she's awesome (intelligence, looks, career), and you don't want to mess up, but you're probably not "scared" of her.
I've been told by more than a handful of guys that I'm intimidating, but I think it's a crock. There's nothing intimidating about me...I'm quiet, soft-spoken for the most part, book-ish, and definitely on the shy/introverted side until I get to know someone well.
What exactly does it mean when a guy says he's intimidated by a woman? Is it her demeanor? Appearance? What? I see that mentioned a lot here, usually in regards to a guy not wanting to approach a woman.
In my opinion it is a complement. When I have been told this it is because it means the person is aware I am not going to put up with any nonsense and I am not desperate. A.K.A. So one who caries themselves like giggling little nitwit that can be easily manipulated. It also suggests that they care enough about what you think that they don't want to make a bad impression.
I can't be the only person where this happens. I think something like this had a lot to do with the Presidential election results. Men have a tough time with smart, successful women. Men can accept another male who is better than they are at something because it happens all the time in sports.
The two candidates in this past election had radically different agendas. Only the very least secure of men could be intimidated in to voting for a woman they disagree with just by threatening to accuse him of being intimidated by strong women if he doesn't. Ironically the only men your argument could possibly persuade are the men who are even less secure than you are accusing them of being.
You do have a point. There are some women that are just plain unpleasant, and come up with the excuse "men can't handle me", when the truth is that people just don't want to.
You also say "No woman is intimidating". I have to agree. In reality, no woman is.
The real problem is that we are projecting our own insecurities onto others.
Yes! There are some women that guys don't just don't want to be around! Its not just women, some men are like that too. Then when a guy does try, he will get rejected because "she is too much to handle" for him.
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I see that mentioned a lot here, usually in regards to a guy not wanting to approach a woman.
