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Easier said than done. Most of my friends are men and they're not the best of listeners. I did have 2 gay roommates who were amazing listeners, but they got married and moved upstate a few years back Skype sessions just aren't the same.
My family is 'pull yourself up by the bootstraps' type of people, I went to my Mom saying I should probably see a doctor because I was feeling really depressed and she told me just to get over and quit being so melodramatic. I ended up seeing a doctor and doing therapy completely on my own which was really difficult.
These things do still happen in the US, but it's rare. A guy will get a girl's number through a mutual friend, then call. The "stakeout" is still a valid method of running into a woman you're interested in: finding out where she works and waiting around, or returning regularly to the coffee shop where you first saw her, at the right time. Bus conversations also happen. The main problem I see is that the guys don't know how to "close the deal", or they're too reticent. Meaning, they may get up the nerve to chat, but they don't introduce themselves, they don't get the number. Everytime they run into you (if it's a smaller town), they try again, but they don't seem to have a command of the basics--saying "nice to meet you, I'm Joe Schmoe", and taking it from there.
What happens if you have no interest in the guy singing outside your window? Isn't it obnoxious, or mortifying? The neighbors would all know some guy is pining for you, and willing to make a fool out of himself in public for you.
I have personally witnessed this myself...with guys I liked, and have watched this happen with other women (friend and non-friend) as well. In the past 6 months, I have liked two guys, they both approached me, we talked awhile, I made it clear via eye contact and smiling that I liked them back, it was obvious that I was attracted to them and they to me...and nothing happened. No exchange of phone numbers, no nothing.
Over the years I have watched female coworkers, relatives, roommates, friends, acquaintances and even enemies walk right up to guys they like, flirt with the guy, the guy flirts back, its obvious that they find each other attractive...but nothing ever happens. My ex and my brother have both admitted to letting nothing happen, out of fear of rejection even though the woman has made it very obvious that she finds them attractive.
I have personally witnessed this myself...with guys I liked, and have watched this happen with other women (friend and non-friend) as well. In the past 6 months, I have liked two guys, they both approached me, we talked awhile, I made it clear via eye contact and smiling that I liked them back, it was obvious that I was attracted to them and they to me...and nothing happened. No exchange of phone numbers, no nothing.
Over the years I have watched female coworkers, relatives, roommates, friends, acquaintances and even enemies walk right up to guys they like, flirt with the guy, the guy flirts back, its obvious that they find each other attractive...but nothing ever happens. My ex and my brother have both admitted to letting nothing happen, out of fear of rejection even though the woman has made it very obvious that she finds them attractive.
This happens to me all the time. Something is wrong with these guys for sure! It is almost like we need to resort to those "Do you like me, yes or no?" notes from middle school. :P
I have personally witnessed this myself...with guys I liked, and have watched this happen with other women (friend and non-friend) as well. In the past 6 months, I have liked two guys, they both approached me, we talked awhile, I made it clear via eye contact and smiling that I liked them back, it was obvious that I was attracted to them and they to me...and nothing happened. No exchange of phone numbers, no nothing.
Over the years I have watched female coworkers, relatives, roommates, friends, acquaintances and even enemies walk right up to guys they like, flirt with the guy, the guy flirts back, its obvious that they find each other attractive...but nothing ever happens. My ex and my brother have both admitted to letting nothing happen, out of fear of rejection even though the woman has made it very obvious that she finds them attractive.
In what age group are the men to whom you are referring?
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Skype sessions just aren't the same.
