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No, it isn't. It might be dead with you, but every man I have been in a relationship with was absolutely chivalrous. I would not have dated him otherwise.
Simple. Stop adding to the problem.
I'm not adding to the problem, seeing as I don't sleep with anyone. If I did, they wouldn't be getting 'freebies.'
or any situation for that matter. Ive gotten dirty looks from women for holding a door open for them. Thats when I never got laid. Now I just let the door go and watch them struggle with it flying in their face and get laid all the time.
I'd like to see the type of woman that would do that. Sorry, but I don't buy it. Unless you looked like a pervert, politeness simply does not get dirty looks.
There is no "rule". No one has said that. The whole thing with opening a lady's car door, is based on the fact that if the lady is dressed up, long dress, heels, purse, etc...then it might be a bit more of an effort to gather up her dress, and step out of the car gracefully. A man, or a gentleman, would always go around to the door, and help his lady out of the car. It's pretty simple, and not at all "unnecessary pageantry". If you drive up to a nice restaurant, (I'm talking really nice...where they take your car and park it for you) the valet guys will always open the door, and offer assistance for you to get out of the car. Same goes for the very exclusive hotels.
It's unfortunate that you've not been exposed to the type of man that would want to do this for you. I find it rather endearing. Although, as I said, I prefer to exit on my own, unless of course, I am all dolled up in formal wear!
Okay well there DOES seem to be a few different rules that people are expected to follow, I don't care what anyone say because I see them pop up on a regular basis from various people. So that tells me there are unwritten rules where dating is concerned.....I brought up the Oscar/dress example, before that I don't remember seeing anyone saying similar. I agree that is a time to help her get out the car, for practicality reasons.
I thought this thread was mostly talking about in general, going to to store or whatever and doing this car thing. That's why I said it's unnecessary pageantry.
Believe it or not, I don't care if I ever meet a man who opens a car door for me because I see it as so miniscule and unnecessary in the first place. Now if there's women that 'get' something out of it, then so be it. It just is pointless to me in everyday situation or on a date, is all.
Okay well there DOES seem to be a few different rules that people are expected to follow, I don't care what anyone say because I see them pop up on a regular basis from various people. So that tells me there are unwritten rules where dating is concerned.....I brought up the Oscar/dress example, before that I don't remember seeing anyone saying similar. I agree that is a time to help her get out the car, for practicality reasons.
I thought this thread was mostly talking about in general, going to to store or whatever and doing this car thing. That's why I said it's unnecessary pageantry.
Believe it or not, I don't care if I ever meet a man who opens a car door for me because I see it as so miniscule and unnecessary in the first place. Now if there's women that 'get' something out of it, then so be it. It just is pointless to me in everyday situation or on a date, is all.
You have no expectations at all, dear. That's your problem. You've let yourself become so jaded, that you don't hold up any sort of expected standard of behavior. Such a shame.
When dating I would be very surprised is a guy did not open the car doors.... Not sure I've had that happen.
For day-to-day, your already in a relationship stuff, yep, DH and I had to negotiate. For errands I'm not waiting for him to open my door leaving the vehicle. I just had to remind him that my lack of patience is one of reasons he loves me.
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Although, as I said, I prefer to exit on my own, unless of course, I am all dolled up in formal wear!
That's why I said it's unnecessary pageantry. 
