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Thats why you only ask them out only if they are at least somewhat keen on you. Same applies for guys asking out girls. But even more applicable for girls asking out guys.
Usually you can tell and if you can't wait until you can.
Odds are she is going after hot guys. Hot meaning they have lot's of women's attention. If she went for the quieter more shy guy. Odds are she would succeed. But you got to follow your standards.
If I give you my number, you never call I get the hint.
If he gives you his and you never call, he will get the hint too.
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It's like what's the point, I don't bother responding to people I have no intention of connecting with.
It's puzzling. Oh well, it is on them.
It’s on you too. Sure, women are used to just waiting for a man to do it all but give it a try and show you are interested as well by, dare I say, take the initiative, and you might be surprised by the results. Some men might say no, others might say yes. We guys go through that all the time.
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Obviously it depends on how it's done. By asking out I don't mean hit on, or act weird...
A simple, 'hey do you wanna go out for a coffee on Tuesday?'
How is that being 'desperate' for a woman?
What would be a desperate thing for a man to do, say something like, 'hey honey, I think you're hot, I really wanna go out with you.' That'd be desperate for either man or woman.
I don't see how a woman doing the EXACT SAME THING AS A MAN - asking someone out in a casual, non-commital way - is any worse.
OP just needs to get over her 'instincts', or what her mother told her or any of that crap if she wants. Or else she'll never know. It reminds me of some old 1930s movie where all the women are waiting waiting for the handsome guy to ask them out, while rejecting suitors. THAT's part of it, they don't want the humiliation of rejection.
Odds are she is going after hot guys. Hot meaning they have lot's of women's attention. If she went for the quieter more shy guy. Odds are she would succeed. But you got to follow your standards.
Doubtful. I lean heavily towards quieter, nerdy guys and still get shot down.
Even nerdy, shy, not so attractive guys still want the hot chicks and are willing to 'hold out' for them, even if it will never happen.
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Doubtful. I lean heavily towards quieter, nerdy guys and still get shot down.
Even nerdy, shy, not so attractive guys still want the hot chicks and are willing to 'hold out' for them, even if it will never happen.
The only girls who have been interested in me that I KNEW OF were fat and physically unattractive. You're right, it wouldn't be fair on them to just go with it. But if an average looker with a great personality asked me out I'd at least try her out, give her a test drive, lol just kidding.
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Doubtful. I lean heavily towards quieter, nerdy guys and still get shot down.
Even nerdy, shy, not so attractive guys still want the hot chicks and are willing to 'hold out' for them, even if it will never happen.
Well it's a pity I don't live in your town lol. I probably LOOK nerdier than I am, though. I'm not that good at maths, not into RPG's or anything like that.
Well it's a pity I don't live in your town lol. I probably LOOK nerdier than I am, though. I'm not that good at maths, not into RPG's or anything like that.
Nah, it wouldn't work, I'm not your physical type.
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