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Old 10-02-2012, 11:02 AM
 
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Until she finalizes her divorce.

Exceptions- if her spouse fled the country or is on the run, and/or refuses to sign the paperwork.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:04 AM
 
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To me, there is one, and only one, definition for being single, and it's the traditional one:

A person who has never been married. Period.

Widowed, divorced and separated are not single. This is another pop culture construct to facilitate dating, from what I can tell.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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You are married. Period. Doesn't matter what is in your heart, that you haven't seen them in 6 months. NOTHING changes the legal fact that you are married. Doesn't matter what you feel or think, that don't change facts.

I'm guessing you are asking because you want to date? And tell the other that you are single? Just tell the truth.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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To me, if you're not married or in a committed relationship with a significant other, you are single. To me....not taken=single. No longer married=single. Widowed and alone=single. Of course, that's just the way I see it. If you're married....you are NOT single.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:22 AM
 
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To me, if you're not married or in a committed relationship with a significant other, you are single. To me....not taken=single. No longer married=single. Widowed and alone=single. Of course, that's just the way I see it. If you're married....you are NOT single.
This, exactly. Single to me means there is not another picture legally or emotionally in the picture.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:44 AM
 
Location: NY
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Single means single. If you are married but seperated, you are married and seperated but not single.

In day to day terms, you may live single, act single (may date or whatever, etc). However, you are legally still tied to your spouse.

I had a friend who was discharged from the military in lieu of courtmartial for adultery over a situation like this. Him and his wife had seperated about 8 years prior on agreeable terms. They never formalized a divorce due to finances, and just moved on with their lives. He had started on a new life, with another women, who he had a child with.

When the Army caught wind, they moved to courtmatial him and drummed him out. His spouse even wrote a letter and was willing to testify in his defense that they were agreeably seperated, wanted to be divorced but never proceeded, etc, and that she had no claim on him, his assets, or anything of the sort. They even tried to finally push through an extra-judicial divorce (easy when mutually agreeable). It didn't help.

As a result, my friend and his wife were stuck in a state far away from their hometown, with no jobs, no income, etc.

Moral of my story... legal status can become very important, and be very impactful.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:49 AM
 
Location: USA
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In this age of domestic partners and SOs having equal status to married couples the arguement is moot.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:56 AM
 
Location: NoVa
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You are separated, but still married. Then you are divorced. I suppose you are considered single because you are no longer married, but in my opinion, it's divorced.
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Old 10-02-2012, 11:59 AM
 
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You are not legally single until the divorce is final and I considered myself single for almost 10 years after my divorce was final.
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Old 10-02-2012, 12:39 PM
 
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You have to be legally unmarried to be single.
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