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True, not all women are interested in shorter men. That doesn't mean there are no women who are interested in shorter men. Just like women vary on levels of attraction towards various other traits.
I know plenty of shorter guys who get women.
Don't let your height be a chip on your shoulder... a chip there could be very unattractive.
Even if you were divorced, you wouldn't be single, IMO - you'd be divorced. Right now, you are at best separated, and even that is a little questionnable unless one of you has filed for divorce or divorce is clearly the intent and known to both of you. You give no details - for all I know, your spouse could be deployed to Afghanistan and you haven't "lived" together for six months.
However, in no way would you be single. Single to most people implies never married, and to many if not most people, a previous marriage is information they want to know about.
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Originally Posted by robertpolyglot
To me, there is one, and only one, definition for being single, and it's the traditional one:
A person who has never been married. Period.
Widowed, divorced and separated are not single. This is another pop culture construct to facilitate dating, from what I can tell.
Are you serious? If you're not married then you're single. When people ask me my relationship status I don't say divorced. I'm single.
Yeah, I consider divorced and widowed to be different types of single but still single nonetheless. I don't consider separated to be single.
Any type of single can still be a problem if their heart still belongs to their ex or they're stuck in the past though. In other words, someone may technically be single but they're not emotionally single.
As one poster stated even though you are divorced you are still not considered “single” but divorced.
As a person whom has yet to be divorced and have been separated from their spouse for 6 months? You are separated period, no ways around it.
As I was informed during MY divorce proceedings when everything was discussed, money, property and so forth? Before the judge made his ruling he stated this “Okay, you are both now divorced and free to date and do as you please.”
Mind you we had been going through our divorce since August of 2005 and it was now Dec 11, 2005. And my ex husband? Had been residing with his technical “mistress” since the day he left which was June 25, 2005, so no, he was not single not at all.
I have heard some posters state that they dated men that had been in the process of divorce and it has worked, well they are lucky, because are those women who have been duped by men going through the process as well that were not looking for anything serious since they were just getting out of a divorce as well as returned to their spouses.
I have written a thread regarding a close friend of mine here on CD regarding this very specific issue. Where the guy she was dating and stated things like “I could see me falling for you” Spoiling her, buying her things, spending time on her ended up going back to his wife!
Even after I told her he had not been separated from his wife long enough to even think about another relationship.
He stated the same things one does in this position “The relationship had been dead for a long time, the sex was not great, I needed more”
Only to turn around on a visit to see his children for the first time in 9 months after leaving the home..And come back a different man?
All of a sudden he was not ready for a relationship/ He did not even call my girlfriend during the trip or on his way back, she had to contact him,
He stated he was not that “guy” Really?
IN ALL fairness? I told my dear friend that even though he sounded great and was a nice guy, he was not ready for a relationship since he was still very angry about the split, spoke badly of his spouse, stated songs that reminded him of her ( Song by Bruno Mars, Grenade) I saw the red flags and she chose to over look them in hopes that he was the one!
He put himself on a dating website without knowing if dating and getting into a relationship was the thing he wanted or just needed to want at the time…
That was his mistake, my friend had choices and counsel and she chose to overlook it.
SO ….no, I believe you are married until you are completely divorced.
What has living with someone or time got to do with it? Location is nothing to do with it as many couples live continents apart. Time has nothing much to do with it either - why 6 months? Why not 7? 5? 3 weeks? 4 years?
You are "single" when your path in life is no longer committed to, and enjoined with, that of someone elses. Location and time apart has nothing to do with it.
You should tell the truth to anyone you date, that you are seperated. No ifs ands or butts. Give the.other person the chance.to make up his/her mind. Personally I would not date you, and many women would agree.with me.
This^ Be honest, and let the cards fall where they may. Some will date you, some won't, but they do so with full and honest info.
(FWIW, where I live, in NC, you MUST be separated for 12 months by law, before you can file for divorce. Here, a separation agreement reads to say "as if never married". That means you can date (if you choose) in separation without effecting the outcome of the divorce. As to what is "right" depends on all people involved, and all of them having full info.
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