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10-02-2012, 10:34 AM
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Location: Philadelphia, PA
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A woman in my office wanted to debate whether it was harder for women or men to find someone. Is this really up for debate? It's much harder for men. It's just biology. There are very few eggs and a huge abundance of sperm. Women clearly have all the power. They can be choosy and picky and wait for whoever they want. I have always thought feminists were a little out of their minds... women already have far more power then men. I think men like to THINK we have equal power, and come up with our little Pick Up Artist theories and our little plans to get women... but any man who is honest knows that we have it much harder.
Anyway, if anyone wants to weigh in, feel free, although i think it's a lopsided argument.
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10-02-2012, 10:45 AM
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Location: Katonah, NY
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This is all BS. When you stop looking at relationships as a power struggle between the two sexes, when you stop trying to figure out who has it harder, when you stop trying to blame the other gender for the bad things in your life, when you stop trying to play the victim card - and when you START realizing that we are all unique individuals, when you START trying to get to know people for who they are instead of what gender they are, when you START letting go of anger and resentment - you'll be a much happier, more successful person.
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10-02-2012, 11:04 AM
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Location: Philadelphia, PA
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When women start being nicer to me and stop rejecting me, maybe then i'll let go of anger and resentment.
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10-02-2012, 11:07 AM
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Location: Katonah, NY
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Originally Posted by lpfan921
When women start being nicer to me and stop rejecting me, maybe then i'll let go of anger and resentment.
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Hey - if you are happy with living with anger and resentment - that's your decision. You can blame it on women if you want to - but at some point in time - you are going to realize that you are in charge of your own life. If you want to spend it being bitter and angry - that's your decision. |
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10-02-2012, 11:13 AM
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Location: Central California
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Originally Posted by Dewdrop93
Hey - if you are happy with living with anger and resentment - that's your decision. You can blame it on women if you want to - but at some point in time - you are going to realize that you are in charge of your own life. If you want to spend it being bitter and angry - that's your decision.
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Good god, I actually agree with a girl on this forum. 
But yeah dude, I've met and dated many girls. Oftentimes, I turned them down because it's not a good fit....or I just kept them as FWB or one night stands instead of going further with it. It's pretty equal in that respect. |
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10-02-2012, 11:19 AM
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Originally Posted by lpfan921
A woman in my office wanted to debate whether it was harder for women or men to find someone. Is this really up for debate?
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of course.
"find someone" -- are we talking about sex or committment? it's easier for women to find sex, easier for men to find committment.
furthermore the power dynamic changes depending on age. at 22, women have far more choices than men. However at 62, it is men that have more choices.
i think it's easy to introduce bias into this discussion -- that is, when the typical man talks about it being "easier for women," he generally has in mind certain women, who are the women he'd like to sleep with.. the ones who don't make that cut are basically invisible to him. Likewise, when the typical woman talks about it being "easier for men" (often when she's older), she seems to have a certain desirable, personable, wealthy, or even famous sort of man in mind when she says this, not the mediocre slob she also finds "invisible."
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10-02-2012, 11:20 AM
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Location: Woodinville
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Debate in the office over who has more power
You can debate all you want. Until you know each gender's Kilowatt-hour usage you'll never have a definitive answer.
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10-02-2012, 11:39 AM
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Location: Philadelphia, PA
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Originally Posted by Dewdrop93
Hey - if you are happy with living with anger and resentment - that's your decision. You can blame it on women if you want to - but at some point in time - you are going to realize that you are in charge of your own life. If you want to spend it being bitter and angry - that's your decision.
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People are so quick to judge before they walk a mile in someone else's shoes. |
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10-02-2012, 11:46 AM
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Location: Katonah, NY
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Originally Posted by lpfan921
People are so quick to judge before they walk a mile in someone else's shoes.
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When people say that they have had a hard time in life and are trying to turn things around - I'm completely understanding. When people say that they are unhappy and are open to figuring out why that is so that they can become happy - I'm completely understanding.
When people blame an entire gender on their unhappiness and continue to harp on how much they resent the other gender - my understanding ends.
My husband always says - you can't control everything that happens to you - but you can control how you handle it. Lots of people have had horrible things happen to them - and yet, they don't blame everyone else but themselves. They don't blame the entire opposite gender. Bitterness only breeds bitterness. Anger only breeds anger. If you cling to these things like some sort of badge of honor - that is your own choice. |
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10-02-2012, 11:59 AM
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Location: Cumberland Co. TN
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Originally Posted by lpfan921
A woman in my office wanted to debate whether it was harder for women or men to find someone. Is this really up for debate? It's much harder for men. It's just biology. There are very few eggs and a huge abundance of sperm. Women clearly have all the power. They can be choosy and picky and wait for whoever they want. I have always thought feminists were a little out of their minds... women already have far more power then men. I think men like to THINK we have equal power, and come up with our little Pick Up Artist theories and our little plans to get women... but any man who is honest knows that we have it much harder.
Anyway, if anyone wants to weigh in, feel free, although i think it's a lopsided argument.
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Dang dude your 100% right. Sperm banks are actually where we women go to look through all the profiles submitted by donors. We pick and choose according to height, looks, educational background, career and income until we find just the one we think we want. He has no choice but to marry us and work to support our habits and if we grow weary of him, we can divorce and take every last thing he has worked oh so hard for then he is forced to go back to barracks until chosen by another woman.
Sorry no woman has chosen you yet. Perhaps you should work on your profile. Anyway which one of the sisterhood let our secret out. She will be dealt with accordingly. |
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