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I am talking to this one guy who I'm hitting it off with but it turns out he drinks and smokes weed and I disapprove both of those. Have any of you ever dealt with a problem like this?
I really don't like people who drink, smoke, or do drugs and I would rather date someone clean or straight edge like myself but those are hard to come by. Even if I were to ask him to not drink or smoke weed around me I would still feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't think they are hard to come by. There are plenty of people who don't do those things. Other than drinking socially, which for me has cut down considerably, because I drive everywhere, so I don't drink, I have never smoked a cigarette, smoked weed, or done drugs in my entire life. And lot of people don't do those things, becuase they want to be healthy and in shape.
You have expressed his drinking and drug abuse as being things you don't "approve of." This is a deal breaker. You may otherwise think he is great, but in a relationship, these things will keep coming up as friction, and I suspect they are not things you will find acceptable comprimise on.
Someone who is living a party life, drinking, doing drugs, etc, is never going to be compatable with someone who is not interested in that lifestyle.
You have expressed his drinking and drug abuse as being things you don't "approve of." This is a deal breaker. You may otherwise think he is great, but in a relationship, these things will keep coming up as friction, and I suspect they are not things you will find acceptable comprimise on.
Someone who is living a party life, drinking, doing drugs, etc, is never going to be compatable with someone who is not interested in that lifestyle.
Thats true and whats dumb to me at least is that he said he had gone to Disneyland and had gotten "high" before going into the theme park with his friends soon after buying himself and his friends brownies and cookies to eat and share etc.
To me I think that is dumb you need to get high to enjoy a theme park? You can't just go to the theme park for the fun of it you need to be high or drunk? Come on now and get a life hahahahaha
I am talking to this one guy who I'm hitting it off with but it turns out he drinks and smokes weed and I disapprove both of those. Have any of you ever dealt with a problem like this?
I really don't like people who drink, smoke, or do drugs and I would rather date someone clean or straight edge like myself but those are hard to come by. Even if I were to ask him to not drink or smoke weed around me I would still feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't know what to do.
You really need to ask what to do? C'mon! He does two activities that you disapprove of (especially the pot smoking...), and you don't know what to do? People who don't drink or do drugs are hard to come by? That makes it sound like you are feeling desperate, and you shouldn't. He definitely doesn't sound like the "end all, be all".
I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, but I don't have an issue with someone who drinks only socially (at the most); but I'd never be interested in someone who smokes pot or cigarettes.
C'mon. You need to ask what to do? Dump the guy and find someone who shares your values.
I am talking to this one guy who I'm hitting it off with but it turns out he drinks and smokes weed and I disapprove both of those. Have any of you ever dealt with a problem like this?
I really don't like people who drink, smoke, or do drugs and I would rather date someone clean or straight edge like myself but those are hard to come by. Even if I were to ask him to not drink or smoke weed around me I would still feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't know what to do.
Move on, really soooooooo not worth the energy and aftermath of hurt. Speaking from experience. I woke to the guy speaking to his spider man poster, he was totally engaged, enrared, I couldn't calm the man down had to exit the apt. Pay phones were still in use in those days, made use to call his mom, had his family come get him. Relationship was never the same, I was terrified. I forget what kind of pot that was they were smoking back then, but obviously, it was spiked. And I know not every person that smokes and drinks is going to go crazy on you, but for me, not worth the risk. I don't like pot heads or being around lushes period.
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