My bf is suddenly talking about ''sharing me'' fantasy

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by randolfthagray

As a guy (and i happen to be new to this forum) I can confidently say that no, he's probably not cheating, he's not necesessarily dissatisfied, and he doesn't think any less of you. quite the opposite, he recognizes you as a sexual being, and enjoys the idea of you having a good time with other men. its like the opposite of jealousy, instead of the idea of possessing you, he has the opposite idea of loving how free you are. and in final, that doesnt mean he doesnt want you to be his, it simply means that he can accept you having a little fun outside of your relationship, but he knows that you will always come back to him.

Well, after reading your post, that's a relief...

[NVplumber]

Originally Posted by JCOconner

He told about imagining walking on me cheating. For the past 3 months or so he's been suggesting me to do if I wanted to and he keeps saying ''I wouldn't mind, it's ok if you want to but if you don't fine''.

Why would a man want to share his gf? What type of man suggest that?

Right now I'm feeling both shocked and unloved to the point I feel like crying. I would never in my life want to share my man. What's wrong with him? Is he cheating? I'm I dealing with a closeted guy? Or does he just doesn't care nor loves me anymore?

Isn't this the way you treat a girl that's only a fling to you (certainly not your loving gf) or the ones you find in bars? I have a feeling he's up to something. I don't think a normal guy who loves his gf as he claims to would even suggest this (in fact, guys would normally get jealous of another guy trying to flirt with his gf).

My. The sexual things that people come up with. There seems to be a lot of people out there who feel a third person is a key ingredient to an unforgettable sexual experience.Personally, over my dead body does someone else touch my lady . I don't "share". She's not a blow up toy. She is a part of me. A BIG part.

I'm sorry OP, but someone who loves you doesn't dream up crap like that. He's been reading to many sex rag magazines or watching to much porn. I suppose the swingers on the board may take umbrage with that outlook, but most people aren't cut out for "the life". I'm sure not. There is NO way I could watch as someone else got sexual with my lady, and I sure as Hell wouldn't be turned on by the sight. I would be quite likely to go into a murderous rage.

Sounds, to me, like your BF found himself a good lady in you, and yes gonna screw it up with adolescent fantasies.

[Inordertoo]

He’s bored and not interest in vanilla. You could easily just play along and not really do it. He’d be happy.