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I wouldn't date someone I had to reassure all the time. We all have our own insecurities. My stomach isn't a chiseled master piece of six pack abs, but I wouldn't insist on keeping my shirt on. That's weird, and if I was a guy the leaving the shirt on would bug me WAY more a little stomach pooch. You dodged a bullet not dating those chicks. I think a person can be confident and nice. They aren't mutually exclusive. Just because someone, either male or female is a nice person doesn't mean they're insecure or a pushover.
I wouldn't date someone I had to reassure all the time. We all have our own insecurities. My stomach isn't a chiseled master piece of six pack abs, but I wouldn't insist on keeping my shirt on. That's weird, and if I was a guy the leaving the shirt on would bug me WAY more a little stomach pooch. You dodged a bullet not dating those chicks. I think a person can be confident and nice. They aren't mutually exclusive. Just because someone, either male or female is a nice person doesn't mean they're insecure or a pushover.
I don't know anyone who isn't insecure with some part of themselves. The problem is perfectly managable in a relationship that has some basis in empathy and acceptance.
I wouldn't mind a woman with low self esteem. There are worse things, like being a mean person, for example. I can handle giving a little extra self-assurance.
It definitely wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. That's part of the job of being a good boyfriend... you should know how to make your woman feel beautiful.
Everyone has insecurities, but I hate it when guys let them out as soon as they meet you. It makes me extremely uncomfortable and turns me off.
My friend invited me out one night a few weeks ago and said her single cousin was also there, in case I was interested. I'm not really into the idea of dating any of my friends' family members, but I figured I'd consider her cousin just in case. He turned out to be a nightmare. Within minutes of meeting me, he started in on how much money he had, how he owned a house, how I was too pretty to date him, that he had acne scars on his face. It didn't stop! It got to the point where I had to politely leave because I couldn't even enjoy hanging out with my friend. That was not what I expected for the evening.
A guy friend wants to date me, but he wears his insecurities on his sleeve, which is a turn off. He also tries to brag about things to make up for his insecurities. Another guy I dated in college tried to mask his insecurities with arrogance, which is an even bigger turn off. Actually, I dated two guys like that. It's so annoying. Oh, and one guy I met from online dating let out all his insecurities on our first date. Not good.
One boyfriend had insecurities, but they were hard to identify. I think he mostly just accepted his insecurities and exuded the sexiest confidence instead. He was fun to be with and his confidence was absolutely amazing. I miss that.
Isn't it funny how this thread would never work or be believable if the genders were reversed.
Low self-esteemed, insecure, self conscious women can and do have boyfriends all the time, and it's totally tolerated. Sure, the OP is complaining about it, but still puts up with it, as does every guy because we're told that these are traits that a man needs to accept in a woman..."Thats just the way women are, don't try to change her".
I can't imagine a "My boyfriend is self conscious about his tiny muscles" thread. It wouldn't be believable.
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