Why do people get upset that others have different preferences? (Asians, guys)
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I've never really understood it. Everyone likes different things when looking at a partner. But I've seen people get attacked because their choices. I've seen people call women who don't like short men get called shallow for example, but to me if she doesn't like short men, that's her preference and she has a right to it
Because in many cases, the word "preference" is used as a cover by people who don't want to own up to their own prejudices. To take an extreme but clear example, many Southern business owners in the early 1960s defended by segregation by saying they weren't really racist, they just "preferred" that blacks didn't patronize their establishments.
I think the biggest problem is moreso related to how people describe the people who don't meet their preferences. Usually it looks like:
I only like XYZ. People who are not XYZ are horrible, unattractive and I have no idea why any would want to date those sort of people because they all do XYZ and are like XYZ.
So not only did you exclude XYZ, you implied they were useless to society (or maybe only for dating).
It is OK if I am not your type. It is not OK to say all women who are my type are inferior to type XYZ because of <insert your favorite stereotype here, negative descriptor>.
I've never really understood it. Everyone likes different things when looking at a partner. But I've seen people get attacked because their choices. I've seen people call women who don't like short men get called shallow for example, but to me if she doesn't like short men, that's her preference and she has a right to it
People like to go on their little tirades and mini power trips for several different reasons- usually because they feel a lack of control within themselves so they try to exert control other people's thoughts and opinions? A meltdown on some kind of psychological complex, maybe.
Reminds me of a chijuajua barking. I mean, yes- people have various preferences- Get over it. Quit gnawing at my feet.
I've never really understood it. Everyone likes different things when looking at a partner. But I've seen people get attacked because their choices. I've seen people call women who don't like short men get called shallow for example, but to me if she doesn't like short men, that's her preference and she has a right to it
Agreed.
Besides, it's called PREFERENCES for a reason. A person may prefer a certain characteristic, but if that person doesn't have said characteristic, it's not necessarily a dealbreaker (if they have other outstanding characteristics to compensate).
For example, I prefer darker skinned women. However, I dated a very pale girl last year because she loved to travel to the same exotic places that I love to travel to (which is not very common in the US). We also had a lot of chemistry. Thus, her skin color became a nonfactor even though she didn't fit my preference.
Besides, it's called PREFERENCES for a reason. A person may prefer a certain characteristic, but if that person doesn't have said characteristic, it's not necessarily a dealbreaker (if they have other outstanding characteristics to compensate).
For example, I prefer darker skinned women. However, I dated a very pale girl last year because she loved to travel to the same exotic places that I love to travel to (which is not very common in the US). We also had a lot of chemistry. Thus, her skin color became a nonfactor even though she didn't fit my preference.
Especially if the snotty person who excludes XYZs are themselves XYZ.
Totally. That just makes it extra ridiculous!
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