Straight-Identified Men Who Have Sex With Men (Christian, gorgeous, depression)
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Btw, I love people who attack someone's masculinity because they are not in agreement with their agenda. Thought you were better than that.
Why would I be threatened by any of this?
I'm not attacking your masculinity. But you've said yourself your feelings on this matter are based on culture. Culture tells men that any sexual contact with another man changes them on a fundamental level. It's why the same 'rules' aren't in effect for females.
Double standards like this are based on cultural views of masculinity. If the only issue at play was transgressing sexuality, the rules would be the same for females. The fact that the rules are different means it isn't about who you sleep with at all...it's about what it says about you as a man.
I'm not attacking your masculinity. But you've said yourself your feelings on this matter are based on culture. Culture tells men that any sexual contact with another man changes them on a fundamental level. It's why the same 'rules' aren't in effect for females.
Double standards like this are based on cultural views of masculinity. If the only issue at play was transgressing sexuality, the rules would be the same for females. The fact that the rules are different means it isn't about who you sleep with at all...it's about what it says about you as a man.
You are assuming that I subscribe to a double standard. Did you get that from any of my posts? And, pray tell, what does any of this say about me as a man?
This is way more common than you think. My many gay male friends are constantly bragging about their sexual conquests with married or opposite-sex partnered men. In fact, I've read that most men who engage in sexual acts with other men DO NOT identify as gay.
Can anyone shed light on this phenomenon? Ladies, if you found out your man was sleeping with other men, how would you react?
Ya know how straight men commonly LIE about their sexual conquests? Well, so do gay men. When any man starts bragging about who he's done, be at least a little suspicious..
You are assuming that I subscribe to a double standard. Did you get that from any of my posts? And, pray tell, what does any of this say about me as a man?
It says nothing about you as a man, other than that you have absorbed cultural messages about men.
You believe that a straight man can't possibly have sex with a gay man because his mind would not allow it, yes? He would be turned off by the very idea of male/male sex. But this hinges on the idea that straight men universally find the very idea of male/male sex distressing. But men aren't wired to find male/male sex distressing...not even straight men. That's a cultural message about masculinity.
Some people buy into the messages that society sends. Some people don't. Some of the things you've been saying are very close to what people say about gender messages. There's little difference between 'straight men could NEVER be aroused in the presence of a gay man!" and "real men don't wear pink!"
Let me ask you this. Do you believe me when I say an asexual can have sex and still have sexual attraction toward other people?
two men are on an island. They've been there for a year. Both were married and love and miss their wives. During a drunken night with the last of the rum from their ruined ship, they have sex. Both men are fantasying about their wives throughout the act. They never repeat the experience or speak of it again.
Human sexuality is not black and white, there are 50 shades of grey.
Just because a man has had sex with a man, doesn't make him gay, any more than a gay man having sex with a woman becomes straight.
If he starts to PREFER same sex encounters, that's when you can call him homosexual.
Rumour has it that this is what happened to John Travolta.
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