Do you have a first date dealbreaker? (too young, sexy, conversations)
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Yeah, I think it's an issue with younger people. And it's both men and ladies...quick anecdote from three days ago, was out at a restaurant with an uncle, and there was a young couple two tables over, both of them were utterly engrossed in their Apple smartphones, it made me wonder how they were even going out when they barely engage each other during dates. My uncle and I were talking more than they were, and that's pretty silly.
I don't have a list and I doubt people do either. There are things that put people off (like being rude to waitstaff LOL) but everything's ignoreable provided the other traits are good. No one is perfect LOL.
That being said I remember one date where we were set up by friends. In a short time frame I learned:
A)She likes to date thugs, and bragged about dating several murderers
B)her whole sexual history including one boyfriend who was also bisexual. According to her, when she found out it was condom everytime LOL
C)hates ******s (she's half caldean/half black) when I asked her about that, she said a black person whose uneducated and a thug. I LOLd (just remember point A)
D)was hard on money, used to rob people to get by
E)several tattoos
To conclude a great night, she ended up almost getting in a fight with 3 other girls and their guy at the casino. She was so bad I sometimes think she deliberately sabotaged it
Does "rude to wait staff" REALLY happen? It's mentioned more than once. (I should probably refrain from BSing with wait staff, but most are cool).
True about language. I believe "irregardless" has now been assimilated into the language because of usage, as they have done with "preventative," which irritates me. Yes, I could see you running if you heard "convo." I learned that one through eavesdropping on commuter rail.
Yes, it does. All of the time. And when I say "wait staff" I actually mean anyone in the service industry.
So what is the point of not dating someone due to saying a few non dictionary words? Elitism? That's the most superficial thing I've read. But then again I see that poster location, and then I think "how can you expect anymore".
That's horrible though I have to be honest and say I did that. The only reason I did it though was because the guy lied big time about his looks (was short and obese while claimed to be tall and muscular). I wouldn't just leave thought without saying anything. Was this guy extremely good looking? My experience has been the guys who do this (and yes have heard of this)were not good looking at all.
You are right. He wasn't good looking at all. Although, honestly, that doesn't really matter to me. The fact is, he had a very ugly character.
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Does "rude to wait staff" REALLY happen? It's mentioned more than once.
It most certainly does. I've had a couple of dates (some time ago), and even a co-worker or two in the past, be very rude to servers for absolutely no reason. It seemed they (the rude persons) were trying to prove they were better than the servers, and they knew that if the servers wanted to keep their jobs they had to just stand there and take it.
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Over lunch today my friends and I had an interesting conversation about things that "make or break" the first date. It's because one of the friends is a perpetual first-dater and rarely gets beyond that.
His pet peeve: His race/ethnic background is not easily identifiable (he says only one stranger got it right in his 30 years of existence) and he considers it a dealbreaker when the date asks him where he's from (he usually answers Hanover, PA, since that's where he was born and his family immigrated over 150 years ago).
He says it's not so much the initial question, but the follow-up when they ask him to clarify as in what country is his family from. He then becomes disgusted and loses all interest in the date.
We tell him he's overreacting, but he says otherwise. He is a work in progress.
Mine is when I just meet someone and when we decide on where to go for dinner, she'll suggest all different types of Asian restaurants because she assumes that's what I normally eat. But that's okay; everyone makes rookie mistakes.
What would be your dealbreaker?
1. already in a relationship of any kind or tied to an ex financially, emotionally.
2. no job/income.
3. on drugs/alcohol, in rehab, recovering or ex con.
4. tattoos, piercings.
5. too flirtatious
6. lazy/high maintenance
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- I imagine that happening in a movie or a sitcom.
