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Old 07-20-2013, 04:26 PM
 
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I'm dating "old guys" and I would say overall the changes begin late 30's, pretty much whatever physical state you're in.

I don't think libido dries up, ever, but the urgency to have sex disappears, unless you have a psychological driver like a sex addiction. It stops being a need and starts being a want, which is probably preferable anyway.

Men do suffer a natural decrease in testosterone. It doesn't mean they can't perform, it means that they sometimes prefer to say, have a round of golf. They start to be able to say no and want sex itself less, say once a week instead of once a day.
Might be true for some guys, but not all. The generalizations in this thread make me laugh. I'm 62 and have wanted sex about once a day since my teens. Not much has changed. I could easily have sex 5 or more times in a day, though it would be hard to find a willing woman. I think about sex almost all the time, and still sometimes get aroused from just seeing someone attractive. Never used the blue pill.

Based on what I'm reading in this thread, I might be a bit unusual and should consider myself lucky? I run marathons and I'm usually among the very first finishers over 60. In fact, I'd be in the upper half of any age group of runners, including men in their 20's in most of these races. I've maintained the same weight I had in my 20's. BMI=21.
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Old 07-20-2013, 05:06 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Might be true for some guys, but not all. The generalizations in this thread make me laugh. I'm 62 and have wanted sex about once a day since my teens. Not much has changed. I could easily have sex 5 or more times in a day, though it would be hard to find a willing woman. I think about sex almost all the time, and still sometimes get aroused from just seeing someone attractive. Never used the blue pill.

Based on what I'm reading in this thread, I might be a bit unusual and should consider myself lucky? I run marathons and I'm usually among the very first finishers over 60. In fact, I'd be in the upper half of any age group of runners, including men in their 20's in most of these races. I've maintained the same weight I had in my 20's. BMI=21.
The difference is that now you only want it once/day instead of several times/day, and once/day probably literally means: once, and that's all you could do per session...? Or if you could muster a 2nd go, your turn-around time would be a lot longer than it was at 30. Women generally need to rounds per session. AFAIK, that doesn't change with age.
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Old 07-20-2013, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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I'm 31... mine is still sky high. What age does it start to slow down? And do you older guys think it's a blessing not being horny all the time? Are you better able to enjoy other things in life without always worrying about trying to get laid? Do you find that you get more productive at work, enjoy time with your family more, etc...?
I'm not sure I should participate here. You might not like my answer.
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Old 07-21-2013, 12:29 AM
 
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I just had to respond to this thread because the general consensus seems to be that older men are generally, if not 100%, anemic and washed up when it comes to sex. Well, maybe some are, but not all. And I'm here to tell you that the major frustration for those few men who have high libido in their 60's is that their partner likely did not similarly maintain a sky high libido through menopause.

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The difference is that now you only want it once/day instead of several times/day, and once/day probably literally means: once, and that's all you could do per session...? Or if you could muster a 2nd go, your turn-around time would be a lot longer than it was at 30. Women generally need to rounds per session. AFAIK, that doesn't change with age.
Not true at all in my case. I've always wanted it about once a day on average, in my teens, and now. No change. What's changed, fortunately, is I don't get nearly as many embarrassing boners from just seeing an attractive woman. So I feel more relaxed and in control of myself, finally.

And no, that's not all I could do in a session now. In particular, if I've skipped a day, I'm usually so worked up the next day that I'm more than ready for a 2nd time in about an hour (or less if I pushed it), and the orgasm on that 2nd one is more powerful than the first -- you sort of have to work a longer time for it and that somehow seems to make it stronger. Then a 3rd and 4th a few hours later isn't difficult. Basically, I can go again after only an hour or two recharge, no matter how many times I've done it before that day. But the orgasm is shorter and feels more numb and sore by the 8th time in a day. Never tried pushing it beyond that -- it takes too much time and doesn't feel all that good.

I didn't think this was anything unusual. The tough part is finding a woman who wants to put up with all this. My wife is "done" with it after 2 times. As she puts it, she doesn't want to spend all day having sex. Not exactly a compliment. So if I in any way unusual, I sure don't feel like my wife appreciates it.

I tell guys who think they're going to have a great time after taking Viagra: just make sure your wife actually wants to have sex. Like a lot of wives in menopause, they might be relieved to not have to deal with sex anymore. And a suddenly Viagra-happy husband chasing them around is the last thing they wanted.
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Old 07-21-2013, 12:47 AM
 
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^^^ Welcome to the board, sam! Point well taken--the percentage of mismatched couples in that regard increases at around 60+. Men and women complain when they're young that their partner can't keep up with them, but due to natural changes that come with age, even more people become mismatched, even if they weren't before. Because not everyone changes in the same way. I've read a lot in newspaper columns about husbands who fizzle out after a certain age, while their wives are raring to go, but of course that works both ways. At any age when a couple is mismatched, it's very sad, imo.

lol! Thanks for posting. You might want to take a look at the PG-13 rule and other Terms of Service at the top of the thread listings page, too. (Of course the rule gets bent and stretched to near-breaking fairly often, but it's good info to have, anyway. )
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Old 07-21-2013, 07:00 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I think i need anti depressants to control my raging libido. I also think I have post coital tristesse.
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Old 07-21-2013, 07:05 AM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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I just noticed mine starting to wain a couple of years ago- and I will be 63 soon. It's not so much about the libido weakening - it might be more about getting very particular about who you have sex with- as a younger man I would have sex with any female that had a heart beat...now I just find it disturbing to get in bed with someone you do not care for or are not naturally attracted too. You have to remember putting hormones aside- 90% of the sexual drive and desire are generated from the mind....If your attitude changes your body follows.
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Old 07-21-2013, 07:38 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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The age varies greatly by individual, but like the distribution of almost everything in this world, there is an average...about which there is variability. It's hard to measure libido, so many studies focus on the distribution of "impotence" (erectile dysfunction") by age group, which increases with age. By age 60, something like 25% men experience this, while it is under 10% for men in their 20s.
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Old 07-21-2013, 09:08 AM
 
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I just noticed mine starting to wain a couple of years ago- and I will be 63 soon. It's not so much about the libido weakening - it might be more about getting very particular about who you have sex with- as a younger man I would have sex with any female that had a heart beat...now I just find it disturbing to get in bed with someone you do not care for or are not naturally attracted too. You have to remember putting hormones aside- 90% of the sexual drive and desire are generated from the mind....If your attitude changes your body follows.
Yes, and "change with age" also depends on where you started from. Unlike a lot of my male peers, I was pretty selective about who I'd sleep with when I was in my 20's. I'm of pretty much the same thinking now -- no change really.

In retrospect, I'll admit I wish I had been less selective when I was in my 20's. I probably would have had more fun and more variety of experience. I sometimes think back on some great opportunities and realize what an idiot I was. Who knows, maybe that adds to my libido now? I probably have more of a "wanting to make up for lost time" and "curiosity about what such and such would be like" than many people my age.

On the other hand, I have my doubts about the efficacy of the "get it out of your system" theory, so who knows? I always roll my eyes when experts give advice about how to combat boredom in the bedroom. Nothing in the bedroom ever got boring for me, no matter how many times. If it was good, it was just even better to repeat.
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Old 07-22-2013, 03:50 AM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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Im dating a 39 year old that has a libido probably higher than any man alive .

It is OUT OF THIS WORLD. This person is horny all the time and my first boyfriend was a VERY horny guy in his 20s .
But this guy is another story. He is also magnificient in bed. Near 40 and can keep going like the duracell bunny. Come on! It is insane.

The 20 and 30 year olds i dated make me wanna cry of shame when i compare them to this 40 year old stud.
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