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I'm sure he'll feel better once he gets it all off his chest, maybe a nice workout or something will help.
Then he'll go out and meet a young lady who won't make him play stupid, silly games in order to prove his worthiness. Leave that to ol girl and a guy with supreme confidence and conversation skills.
Then the OP will be happy, probably making plans to go salsa dancing with this fine young lady, while ol girl is down at CVS picking up some Plan B and what little dignity she has left from Mr. Conversationalist using her face as a bull's eye.
Okay, maybe a little dramatic, but I hope things turn around for him. I know guys like him, one was a former roommate, how it affects them and that's why I take a liking to his situation.
Btw, I'd rather he vent on a forum than with alcohol, drugs, abuse. Etc.
To be honest I don't really understand what his complaint is...is he complaining because he has to make conversation?
I think it's partly because of the assumptions made by some women because of a guy's ability to hold a convo, like how good you are in bed, relationship material, etc.
I think it's partly because of the assumptions made by some women because of a guy's ability to hold a convo, like how good you are in bed, relationship material, etc.
Well, if you can't have a conversation how could anyone get to know him? Almost all social interactions START with small talk of some sort. I don't meet someone and lead with what I feel is the meaning of life - not if I don't want them to run away.
Thing is with him, approaching women makes him nervous at times and therefore he gets disqualified because he isn't as smooth and refined as other guys. Women may lose interest quickly, and it's no fault of his.
Those guys are pros, get women to buy what they're selling. And while some of those guys turn out to be douches just looking for an easy lay or two, he feels he's a good guy with a lot to offer who gets shunned...all because he isn't as socially gifted as those guys are.
As a result, women make assumptions that he sucks in bed, has a personality of a brillo pad, etc.
Thing is with him, approaching women makes him nervous at times and therefore he gets disqualified because he isn't as smooth and refined as other guys. Women may lose interest quickly, and it's no fault of his.
Those guys are pros, get women to buy what they're selling. And while some of those guys turn out to be douches just looking for an easy lay or two, he feels he's a good guy with a lot to offer who gets shunned...all because he isn't as socially gifted as those guys are.
Here's where you are wrong - not all men are either smooth, charming d-bags or shy, unrefined quality men. There are lots of quality men out there who are comfortable talking with women. And many quality women that are looking for more than a one night stand can tell the difference between a d-bag and a good guy.
The only way you can really get to know someone is by talking with them. If you are incapable of carrying on a conversation with someone - it's going to be pretty darn hard for anyone to get to know you or for you to get to know anyone. There has to be a certain level of comfort when talking with someone in order for you to want to get to know them better. And having a lot of pent up rage and blame toward the opposite sex isn't going to help things.
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