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Guys, honestly what can an average looking girl do to stand out if she is competing with other girls who are more attractive....??
We know how shallow men are and they are going to notice the most attractive women first while overlooking the more average looking girls...but there has to be something we can do to pop out more if our looks are not our strongest advantage...
Guys, precisely like women, will initially go for looks.
Let me say that again: PRECISELY LIKE WOMEN.
That's not a dig on women; it's a fact, so if you're going to talk about how shallow men are please, PLEASE try to be fair about it and admit women are just as shallow. To do otherwise is pretense, delusional and downright "I'm a victim" pathetic.
However...
ALSO precisely like women, not all guys ONLY go for that, and many not even for very long. Different men are attracted to different things.
You know all those questions the mental weiners in this forum ask, requesting some form of mystical, catch-all insider-trading information on what women "really" want, and how all the women try to tell the poor ******* that there is NO way to predict this because women are different and there is no magic formula?
Yeah, THAT. Now take the word women, remove it, then copy and paste the word men into all those spots. THE STATEMENT STILL STANDS, JUST AS FACTUALLY AS IT DID BEFORE!
What does this mean?
It means that guys WILL notice looks, everyone does; but they'll also notice things like personality, social traits, personal predilections, quirks, intelligence (et cetera, ad nauseum) and they'll continue based on those things.
YOUR first problem, Nyanna: You hate YOU; and if YOU hate you, then quite honestly WHY should I like you? You make it known from the outset you dislike you and therefore you've done the weeding for me, freeing me to now traipse on to someone more preferable.
This has nothing to do with looks, but with someone who absolutely EXUDES a negative attitude.
Your second problem, Nyanna: You are angry at men. It comes through in pretty much every post you write. Why would I bother if I have to not merely prove myself to you socially as any new acquaintance/lover would but also have to start from the point of combating your overt hostility toward me based on my gender? It reeks of misplaced entitlement (you're angry with men for not meeting YOUR expectations or desires when the fact of the matter is we men owe you NOTHING) and it sets the stage for rapid aversion on the parts of those who DO risk approaching you, often with the hope they're misunderstood (which they haven't).
Your third problem, Nyanna: You tell us all the time what "everyone KNOWS"; you're so dead-set on and certain of your negative stance that you've ended up like some of these self-declared Betas and milksops in here who hate women for not kowtowing and accepting their "place", all the while whining about what everyone really KNOWS about women.
If you already "know" all this stuff then you cannot possibly have room left for learning; and everything you know is BAD.
Frankly, I don't know why you want a man at all. Your posture and attitude toward them are quite clear.
My advice:
CHILL.
Learn to love YOU and knock off blaming everyone else for you. The world owes you SQUAT.
And when you learn to genuinely smile, that's when guys will notice you, at least more than they do now. I promise NOTHING, but all you have in this country is the right to PURSUE happiness, not the right to happiness.
Guys, honestly what can an average looking girl do to stand out if she is competing with other girls who are more attractive....??
We know how shallow men are and they are going to notice the most attractive women first while overlooking the more average looking girls...but there has to be something we can do to pop out more if our looks are not our strongest advantage...
Guys, precisely like women, will initially go for looks.
Let me say that again: PRECISELY LIKE WOMEN.
That's not a dig on women; it's a fact, so if you're going to talk about how shallow men are please, PLEASE try to be fair about it and admit women are just as shallow. To do otherwise is pretense, delusional and downright "I'm a victim" pathetic.
However...
ALSO precisely like women, not all guys ONLY go for that, and many not even for very long. Different men are attracted to different things.
You know all those questions the mental weiners in this forum ask, requesting some form of mystical, catch-all insider-trading information on what women "really" want, and how all the women try to tell the poor ******* that there is NO way to predict this because women are different and there is no magic formula?
Yeah, THAT. Now take the word women, remove it, then copy and paste the word men into all those spots. THE STATEMENT STILL STANDS, JUST AS FACTUALLY AS IT DID BEFORE!
What does this mean?
It means that guys WILL notice looks, everyone does; but they'll also notice things like personality, social traits, personal predilections, quirks, intelligence (et cetera, ad nauseum) and they'll continue based on those things.
YOUR first problem, Nyanna: You hate YOU; and if YOU hate you, then quite honestly WHY should I like you? You make it known from the outset you dislike you and therefore you've done the weeding for me, freeing me to now traipse on to someone more preferable.
This has nothing to do with looks, but with someone who absolutely EXUDES a negative attitude.
Your second problem, Nyanna: You are angry at men. It comes through in pretty much every post you write. Why would I bother if I have to not merely prove myself to you socially as any new acquaintance/lover would but also have to start from the point of combating your overt hostility toward me based on my gender? It reeks of misplaced entitlement (you're angry with men for not meeting YOUR expectations or desires when the fact of the matter is we men owe you NOTHING) and it sets the stage for rapid aversion on the parts of those who DO risk approaching you, often with the hope they're misunderstood (which they haven't).
Your third problem, Nyanna: You tell us all the time what "everyone KNOWS"; you're so dead-set on and certain of your negative stance that you've ended up like some of these self-declared Betas and milksops in here who hate women for not kowtowing and accepting their "place", all the while whining about what everyone really KNOWS about women.
If you already "know" all this stuff then you cannot possibly have room left for learning; and everything you know is BAD.
Frankly, I don't know why you want a man at all. Your posture and attitude toward them are quite clear.
My advice:
CHILL.
Learn to love YOU and knock off blaming everyone else for you. The world owes you SQUAT.
And when you learn to genuinely smile, that's when guys will notice you, at least more than they do now. I promise NOTHING, but all you have in this country is the right to PURSUE happiness, not the right to happiness.
You did not answer my question.
What can an average girl do to compete with the girls who are universally good looking?
What can an average girl do to compete with the girls who are universally good looking?
Stick to the topic.
Appeal to a niche and get lucky, or lower your standards. I have a few male friends who approach, sleep with, and date less than attractive women, but, they generally aren't the finest physical specimens themselves and don't have high-status jobs.
If you don't & can't appeal to a niche with a gender supply/demand imbalance favoring you, and you're not pretty or thin, then you can't compete with substantially more attractive women........but, unless you insist on wanting to pull a guy much more desirable on the standard metrics women have than you are on the standard metrics men have, you don't have to.
If that's not palatable to you or you feel a desire to improve yourself regardless, then go on a diet and afterward dress well, and you'll find that some of the guys who once upon a time wouldn't give you a second glance are interested.
Appeal to a niche and get lucky, or lower your standards. I have a few male friends who approach, sleep with, and date less than attractive women, but, they generally aren't the finest physical specimens themselves and don't have high-status jobs.
If you don't & can't appeal to a niche with a gender supply/demand imbalance favoring you, and you're not pretty or thin, then you can't compete with substantially more attractive women........but, unless you insist on wanting to pull a guy much more desirable on the standard metrics women have than you are on the standard metrics men have, you don't have to.
If that's not palatable to you or you feel a desire to improve yourself regardless, then go on a diet and afterward dress well, and you'll find that some of the guys who once upon a time wouldn't give you a second glance are interested.
Why does average mean overweight??? I am not overweight.
Nyanna I'm curious what you look like. I'm convinced you're just another pretty girl whose bad experiences has brainwashed her into thinking she's subpar. Smh.
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