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That is really stupid. I think that engagement rings and wedding rings should be enough of an investment that it means something - but not anything that is going to put a strain on your finances. It should be what you can afford. My dad spent $200 on my mom's ring and that was pretty much all he could really afford. Years later he offered to replace if with a really nice ring and my mom refused.
Yeah, but Jersey's all about the bling. I've been in revolt all my life, it seems...
I'm not saying I hate jewelry, but I don't own a single piece that's over a hundred bucks (and those were given to me). Pretty is nice, but when you get into expensive, I get stressed.
I dunno. I have a relative whose engagement was delayed for months while her fiance saved for a ring, even as he was living in his mother's basement. WTF? That's just stupid.
The things lots of guys would do for their woman.
There are women who put a lot of importance on how much her man needs to spend on her ring for her to be satisfied, feel loved, believe him that he is serious, and accept marrying him. This could be a red flag to a guy or not. If she was one of the few who doesn’t care or even more rare if she wanted to buy him an engagement ring too (not common for women to spend money on a man they are not married to but who knows) then there wouldn’t be any long delays for their engagement.
There are women who put a lot of importance on how much her man needs to spend on her ring for her to be satisfied, feel loved, believe him that he is serious, and accept marrying him. This could be a red flag to a guy or not. If she was one of the few who doesn’t care or even more rare if she wanted to buy him an engagement ring too (not common for women to spend money on a man they are not married to but who knows) then there wouldn’t be any long delays for their engagement.
What do you think is stupid?
Because they were broke and were obsessed with this ring. Like it would mean something in the big picture other than a gross misallocation of resources. Yeah, I get that some people have different values, and I tend towards the puritanical in some ways (though I do spend on things others would consider stupid myself). But why put your life together on hold and spend money you can ill afford in order to have something shiny to show off to other people? It's an object. You can't eat it. It loses value as soon as it leaves the store. It has no practical purpose, except to be seen by others.
Because they were broke and were obsessed with this ring. Like it would mean something in the big picture other than a gross misallocation of resources. Yeah, I get that some people have different values, and I tend towards the puritanical in some ways (though I do spend on things others would consider stupid myself). But why put your life together on hold and spend money you can ill afford in order to have something shiny to show off to other people? It's an object. You can't eat it. It loses value as soon as it leaves the store. It has no practical purpose, except to be seen by others.
Now - if they had decided to wait to get engaged and/or married until they had x amount of dollars in the bank so that they had a firm financial foundation to start off with, and a small portion of that was allocated to their rings, that would make sense. But to have the end goal of their saving to be for their engagement ring when they don't have a pot to pee in - well, that makes no sense at all.
Because they were broke and were obsessed with this ring. Like it would mean something in the big picture other than a gross misallocation of resources. Yeah, I get that some people have different values, and I tend towards the puritanical in some ways (though I do spend on things others would consider stupid myself). But why put your life together on hold and spend money you can ill afford in order to have something shiny to show off to other people? It's an object. You can't eat it. It loses value as soon as it leaves the store. It has no practical purpose, except to be seen by others.
And that’s how I and my girl see it. We rather spend those thousands of euros she would spend on my ring and I would spend on her’s in a down payment, a longer honeymoon in different countries, etc. instead of having all that money simply wrapped around our fingers.
If women want their man to spend all his money on their ring so they can feel loved and then go to all her girlfriends to compare it and show it off and their man is fine with it, that’s their thing. But it seems you and I don’t follow that.
That is really stupid. I think that engagement rings and wedding rings should be enough of an investment that it means something - but not anything that is going to put a strain on your finances. It should be what you can afford. My dad spent $200 on my mom's ring and that was pretty much all he could really afford. Years later he offered to replace if with a really nice ring and my mom refused.
Exactly. Rings don't have to be few grand. I plan on a few hundred. If a girl wants a ring to be a certain price, then she's not for me.
Except people do still break off engagements, even with a ring. I did.
Well sure. But a ring for sure eliminates a lot of wishy-washy relationships that don't have a future (unless the person accepting the ring likes to mislead people).
When I ask a girl out, I don't accept "maybe" or "I'll let you know the day before". Its yes or no. She can cancel obviously, but I'm not going to devote a night to someone who can't say they'll reserve a night for me.
Had you asked this question 10 years ago, I'd have proudly proclaimed "I've been waiting for a real birthstone ring my entire life and it has to be amazing!"
Fast forward 10 years and while I do hope to find Mr. Right some day, I don't need a large engagement ring. If I wanted flashy diamonds, I am capable of buying them for myself since I've worked hard and have the financial means. I'd rather spend the money as a couple for a trip- or make an extra mortgage payment. That said, I'd like a simple eternity band.
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