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Im a Jr. in College and just saw a girl who I thought was really pretty in class. It's hard to talk duriong class since it is in an auditorium so how do I initiate the conversation after class? I do know she likes trance music if it helps at all.
That's a challenge. Those big auditorium classes make it difficult to approach someone out of the huge crowd after class. If the class breaks up at some point into study groups, like to work on a research project, get into her group. Or sit near her, and try to chat as she's walking out.
Bear in mind, she may already have a bf, she may not be interested, and just because she's pretty doesn't mean she has a pleasant personality or that you have anything in common. But give it a try.
Also: join campus activity groups, to meet other girls.
Im a Jr. in College and just saw a girl who I thought was really pretty in class. It's hard to talk duriong class since it is in an auditorium so how do I initiate the conversation after class? I do know she likes trance music if it helps at all.
Try to sit next to her (or near her) and before class one day say "Hey. What's up? This class sucks huh? By the way, I'm lightningferron. What's your name?"
Seems more like you're attracted to her looks rather than you like her. Then again in my experience guys tend to equate liking how a gal looks to liking her so perhaps that is the depth of your feelings.
Perhaps try approaching her and introducing yourself then asking her about her musical tastes.
Do what girls used to do to me. Wait til after class, be slightly ahead of her and slow down til she is just about walking with you. If there is any assignment in class to partner up on, stare at her that day to let her know that you woud like to be her partner and after class do the same as the first thing. Walk slightly ahead and walk slow so she can catch up.. Casually talk about class and then ask, did you get a partner for that test/ or whatever needing a partner would entail.
I would say try to sit by her, but that's too obvious. Usually by the second day of class students already have their seats. People are territorial by nature. I know this I've been to college. If you don't sit by her now, don't move at this point. Not unless your not taking someone elses seat, and the whole class will notice. Not that that should matter, but for many it does.
Or you can do what I have done. Just wait for her after class and walk up to her and strike up a conversation. It only has to be awkward once. After that first conversation, continually talk to her so it becomes comfortable. Give her time to think about you and what she may or may not want to do with you. I don't suggest asking her out right out of the blue. I would suggest making eye contact throughout the class to see if she reciprocates. If she doesn't do any of that, then most likely she isn't interested and at which point, I would disregard everything stated above.
Do what girls used to do to me. Wait til after class, be slightly ahead of her and slow down til she is just about walking with you. If there is any assignment in class to partner up on, stare at her that day to let her know that you woud like to be her partner and after class do the same as the first thing. Walk slightly ahead and walk slow so she can catch up.. Casually talk about class and then ask, did you get a partner for that test/ or whatever needing a partner would entail.
I would say try to sit by her, but that's too obvious. Usually by the second day of class students already have their seats. People are territorial by nature. I know this I've been to college. If you don't sit by her now, don't move at this point. Not unless your not taking someone elses seat, and the whole class will notice. Not that that should matter, but for many it does.
Or you can do what I have done. Just wait for her after class and walk up to her and strike up a conversation. It only has to be awkward once. After that first conversation, continually talk to her so it becomes comfortable. Give her time to think about you and what she may or may not want to do with you. I don't suggest asking her out right out of the blue. I would suggest making eye contact throughout the class to see if she reciprocates. If she doesn't do any of that, then most likely she isn't interested and at which point, I would disregard everything stated above.
That would be my advice. Hope it helps.
Don't stare at her. That's entering creepy territory!
This is basic...
Ask a question...any question...
'Did you get the hwk?'
'How was the test?'
'Do you like the prof?'
'Do you know if anyone is doing a study group for the class?'
'Did the prof say x, or y?'
....
And those are just questions pertaining to the class..
So many other options as well.
Do what girls used to do to me. Wait til after class, be slightly ahead of her and slow down til she is just about walking with you. If there is any assignment in class to partner up on, stare at her that day to let her know that you woud like to be her partner and after class do the same as the first thing. Walk slightly ahead and walk slow so she can catch up.. Casually talk about class and then ask, did you get a partner for that test/ or whatever needing a partner would entail.
I would say try to sit by her, but that's too obvious. Usually by the second day of class students already have their seats. People are territorial by nature. I know this I've been to college. If you don't sit by her now, don't move at this point. Not unless your not taking someone elses seat, and the whole class will notice. Not that that should matter, but for many it does.
Or you can do what I have done. Just wait for her after class and walk up to her and strike up a conversation. It only has to be awkward once. After that first conversation, continually talk to her so it becomes comfortable. Give her time to think about you and what she may or may not want to do with you. I don't suggest asking her out right out of the blue. I would suggest making eye contact throughout the class to see if she reciprocates. If she doesn't do any of that, then most likely she isn't interested and at which point, I would disregard everything stated above.
That would be my advice. Hope it helps.
Yes....in very small doses re: the looking/staring, just try to catch her eye and smile a nice smile....but the casually walking next to her just to introduce yourself, and ask if she'd like to get a coffee is acceptable. I don't know why young people are so afraid to approach each other these days...I suppose so many folks afraid of political correctness and being considered pushy. Most girls are attracted by guys that are a bit mysterious, slightly shy...But don't be too hard on yourself if she is taken.
Another thing might be sort of watch where she eats lunch, or goes to the library...Don't appear to be a stalker, just accidentally running into her a couple times in public places is ok. Good luck
I'm in college, and for some reason, I find this amusing (I'm not trying to be mean to you OP, but I just don't understand what the big deal is...just come up after class and say, "hi", or try to sit next to her and catch her eye...it's not rocket science ).
How do you know she likes trance music? You could use that knowledge to initiate a conversation, depending on how you know.
Don't stare at her. That's entering creepy territory!
You took me too literally. I mean make flirty eye contact. The body/ eyes tell a person more than anything else that someone likes you. Some actually believe that the eyes are the key to the soul. The eyes never lie. You'll know if someone thinks you're attractive by the way they look at you. You just have to notice it. If she's never looking his way, more than not, she's simply not interested.
It's really as simple as that.
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