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I met a girl online. She is 29 yrs old with a 7 year old daughter.
We were planning to meet for our FIRST date and while we were talking on the phone she asked two things that caught be a bit off guard:
1. She asked me if I was financially stable enough to support a wife who could stay home with young children. She said she hopes to have one or two more kids with the right guy and prefers to stay at home in the first few years when the kids are young.
2. She asked me to pay for her daughter's child care (or a baby sitter) while we went on our FIRST DATE. She is in nursing school and her cash flow is not good right now. The cost for the child care is not much ($30 or $40 bucks for 3 hours). But as a rule, I don't pay for other kids child care, esp. people I don't know.
Mind you, we have NOT even met in person yet. And we've only chatted a few times on the phone. Am I overreacting to delete this girl's number now and move on to the next person?
Her first question to you sounds a bit like she is pushing to get married...not good. Her second one is a bit bold. I think I would tell her that the two of you are better off as friends for now. Surely she has a relative who could watch her kid unless she doesn't want them to know she is dating?
Yes, I know it's an old thread. But for similar issues:
We don't know what they bring to the table.
If she is very good looking and he is 50 and fat, so yes, he will need to pay to equalize the equation.
I met a girl online. She is 29 yrs old with a 7 year old daughter.
We were planning to meet for our FIRST date and while we were talking on the phone she asked two things that caught be a bit off guard:
1. She asked me if I was financially stable enough to support a wife who could stay home with young children. She said she hopes to have one or two more kids with the right guy and prefers to stay at home in the first few years when the kids are young.
2. She asked me to pay for her daughter's child care (or a baby sitter) while we went on our FIRST DATE. She is in nursing school and her cash flow is not good right now. The cost for the child care is not much ($30 or $40 bucks for 3 hours). But as a rule, I don't pay for other kids child care, esp. people I don't know.
Mind you, we have NOT even met in person yet. And we've only chatted a few times on the phone. Am I overreacting to delete this girl's number now and move on to the next person?
"Danger Will Robinson!"
Wow, just wow. I would dump this chump. I don't see any upside here. Move along.
I met a girl online. She is 29 yrs old with a 7 year old daughter.
We were planning to meet for our FIRST date and while we were talking on the phone she asked two things that caught be a bit off guard:
1. She asked me if I was financially stable enough to support a wife who could stay home with young children. She said she hopes to have one or two more kids with the right guy and prefers to stay at home in the first few years when the kids are young.
2. She asked me to pay for her daughter's child care (or a baby sitter) while we went on our FIRST DATE. She is in nursing school and her cash flow is not good right now. The cost for the child care is not much ($30 or $40 bucks for 3 hours). But as a rule, I don't pay for other kids child care, esp. people I don't know.
Mind you, we have NOT even met in person yet. And we've only chatted a few times on the phone. Am I overreacting to delete this girl's number now and move on to the next person?
You're not overreacting in deleting this person and moving on.She is being upfront right away which there is nothing wrong with being that way BUT she needs to understand that she can't come across to strangers like that...especially someone whom she would be looking to date.Too much way too soon.
I think it's a red flag and that you need to delete the number and move on.
I met a girl online. She is 29 yrs old with a 7 year old daughter.
We were planning to meet for our FIRST date and while we were talking on the phone she asked two things that caught be a bit off guard:
1. She asked me if I was financially stable enough to support a wife who could stay home with young children. She said she hopes to have one or two more kids with the right guy and prefers to stay at home in the first few years when the kids are young.
2. She asked me to pay for her daughter's child care (or a baby sitter) while we went on our FIRST DATE. She is in nursing school and her cash flow is not good right now. The cost for the child care is not much ($30 or $40 bucks for 3 hours). But as a rule, I don't pay for other kids child care, esp. people I don't know.
Mind you, we have NOT even met in person yet. And we've only chatted a few times on the phone. Am I overreacting to delete this girl's number now and move on to the next person?
Why are you even asking us? Shouldn't this be obvious?
I met a girl online. She is 29 yrs old with a 7 year old daughter.
We were planning to meet for our FIRST date and while we were talking on the phone she asked two things that caught be a bit off guard:
1. She asked me if I was financially stable enough to support a wife who could stay home with young children. She said she hopes to have one or two more kids with the right guy and prefers to stay at home in the first few years when the kids are young.
2. She asked me to pay for her daughter's child care (or a baby sitter) while we went on our FIRST DATE. She is in nursing school and her cash flow is not good right now. The cost for the child care is not much ($30 or $40 bucks for 3 hours). But as a rule, I don't pay for other kids child care, esp. people I don't know.
Mind you, we have NOT even met in person yet. And we've only chatted a few times on the phone. Am I overreacting to delete this girl's number now and move on to the next person?
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