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Old 10-14-2012, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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Originally Posted by Alicant310 View Post
Then dont go out. Stay home with your fish,cat,dog.. whatever you got. No one owes you anything. Be grateful he bought you anything . Take yourself out with your own money if its sooooo important to you
If he thinks it is "inconvenient" to pay once sometimes, we are not compatible. Because I am generous myself and I have no problems paying in relationships and friends etc. Like a said, not paying on a first date is like a sure sign that we aren't a match. But I don't expect men to shell out $50 either. If we go out for coffee, spend the $3 on the latte.

 
Old 10-14-2012, 11:48 PM
 
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If he thinks it is "inconvenient" to pay once sometimes, we are not compatible. Because I am generous myself and I have no problems paying in relationships and friends etc. Like a said, not paying on a first date is like a sure sign that we aren't a match. But I don't expect men to shell out $50 either. If we go out for coffee, spend the $3 on the latte.
right, well..be convinced that some men feel the same vice versa. if she cant pay on the first date then its probably not a good match. everyone goes their own way.

Not a big deal. theres plenty of fish out for everyone.nothing has been lost
 
Old 10-15-2012, 12:04 AM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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right, well..be convinced that some men feel the same vice versa. if she cant pay on the first date then its probably not a good match. everyone goes their own way.

Not a big deal. theres plenty of fish out for everyone.nothing has been lost
Well let's just say, I've only had to pay for myself once on a first date, and that guy was a loser in more ways than one. Every other date the bill has been magically paid for before I have even had a chance to think about grabbing my wallet (as in signed, sealed and delivered to the waiter). And yes, I offer on subsequent dates.
 
Old 10-15-2012, 12:10 AM
 
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Well let's just say, I've only had to pay for myself once on a first date, and that guy was a loser in more ways than one. Every other date the bill has been magically paid for before I have even had a chance to think about grabbing my wallet (as in signed, sealed and delivered to the waiter). And yes, I offer on subsequent dates.
yea, its always a hit or miss for both genders..but atleast youre out there meeting people
 
Old 10-15-2012, 04:34 AM
 
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I wouldnrather be alone for the rest of my life than having a man who cannot afford a decent meal on a restaurant on a date.
 
Old 10-15-2012, 04:56 AM
 
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I wouldnrather be alone for the rest of my life than having a man who cannot afford a decent meal on a restaurant on a date.
^^^^ This. Yes, I agree. If a man cannot, or will not, pay for the meal, then don't date, and then don't complain why you get no dates. Use your money to go visit a hooker or escort that you all talk about. Get your rocks off and then go back home alone to your cold empty bed. The bottom line is you will have trouble dating with that attitude.
 
Old 10-15-2012, 05:05 AM
 
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I am amazed at the number of threads by men who seem downright angry at having to pay for dates--even first dates!
And usually, it doesn't seem to be about money. Rarely do the men who post these threads tell horror stories about being expected to fork out enormous sums. To most of them, it seems to be more a matter of principle. Having to spend money on women just seems to infuriate them, even when THEY asked for the date in the first place.
What gives with that?
I haven't noticed too many rants on here about men having to pay for the first date, especially enormous sums. Some tips for first daters:

1. Choose a place to go that isn't swallowed up by how much money you are going to end up spending. A date for a walk in the park or a drive to the beach can be just as much fun as an expensive dinner.

2. Discuss beforehand how payment is going to happen long before the date takes place. A simple "wanna go half and half" or "wanna go dutch" as the old folks would say works.

3. If a guy meets a lady he really likes then paying for the date is not an issue. If he is uncertain then a conversation prior to the date is essential.

Times have changed so much when it comes to dating. The guys now a days pretty much take the whole thing about women being equal (and of course they are) to a whole 'nother level meaning that if women want to be a man's equal then they should pay for the date type of thing. I don't get it either. It is such an easy problem to solve by talking about it prior to the date, right?
 
Old 10-15-2012, 05:10 AM
 
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As I said in another thread, guys are fine with paying for dates with women they really like.
 
Old 10-15-2012, 05:17 AM
 
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I wouldnrather be alone for the rest of my life than having a man who cannot afford a decent meal on a restaurant on a date.
Morning Mayita: No, you would not rather be alone. There are many, many different kinds of dates that don't require a guy to pay outrageous sums of money for dinner. A walk on the beach, a day at the park, a movie and dinner at a fairly inexpensive restaurant with YOU paying half. Finding someone to be a life's partner doesn't require that potential partner to go bankrupt over a date.

My most fun date EVER was when my now husband and I went to our local park at Christmas time and took photos of all the decorations. It was dusk and super COLD outside but we had so much fun. After the photo session, so to speak, we went back to his condo, built a fire in the fireplace, ordered pizza, drank wine and the rest was history. I am now married to this man and very happy. We didn't spend outrageous amounts of cash on anything. We barbecued, went to movies, watched movies at home, went for walks and I fell in love. He is a smart, wonderful husband now.

Find someone who concentrates on YOU not on how much money he can spend on you..brings you far more happiness. Trust me on this one.
 
Old 10-15-2012, 05:19 AM
 
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As I said in another thread, guys are fine with paying for dates with women they really like.
I agree to a point. I still think on first dates it should be a 50-50 thing. After that and if you intend to keep on dating then you could talk about who pays what...dates shouldn't bankrupt either partner.
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