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Yeah, I was just in one. I went into it knowing I was only physically attracted. I've never done it before so I guess there's a first time for everything. But I started feeling bad after sex because there were no emotions involved and emotionless sex starts to get old. And I was using him to replace my ex-bf and that started to get old too. Also, I found out he was dating other people. I was okay with that at first but no, I'm not really okay with it. I have a problem with doing something or someone if I know nothing will come out of it. At some moment of realization, it's like, what's the point of all this again?
Agreed. This is an age thing. Traditionally, men have preferred FWB relationships and women have not because men in their late teens and early 20s were preparing for interesting lives and careers and didn't want to get entangled with any responsibilites that would interfere with their future goals. At this age, men have sexual needs, but it makes most sense to satisfy them through casual arrangements.
Young women at this age also have sexual needs, but traditionally, they weren't looking forward to anything beyond marriage and family. Marrying at age 16 or 18 or so? Great! No more being bossed around by mom and dad... finally, she can be a master of her own house.
Today, things are a bit different. Young women, like young men, are also preparing for interesting careers and lives. A young female doctor-in-training probably doesn't want a bossy husband or snotty brats interfering with her studies. She still has sexual needs though. So, the FWB makes as much sense for her as it did for young men 50 years ago, particulalry in the age of effective birth control.
By the time men and women are in their 30s, though, both genders are probably looking to settle down. The career has been launched, the parties are getting old ... time to move on to the next stage of life, children and the adult responsibilities that come with maintaining a family.
This is how I see it. I dont understand how ppl have such a hard time distingushing between a real relationship and a FWB. A couple times in my life I did not want or could not deal with a serious emotional relationship with all the drama and what not. I entered into the FWB with guys that were my friends. We both knew the deal going in. We knew we would never be compatable for a LTR or marriage. I met my ex while in a FWB.
Years ago some women I worked with who were then much older that I, only dated married men because they wanted the sex and fun but no emotional attachment or drama. I think that was todays equivalent of FWB. But in those days it was called home wreaker and ho ho.
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