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Long story short, there's this guy at my new job who's been coming up to my area everyday for the past few days now to make conversation. He initially mentioned that he first saw me in the lobby and that I didn't speak to him (I saw him but didn't care to.) I am not attracted to him in the least, but I am polite and chit chat with him cordially about life in general. He brags alot about himself and I'm not the least bit impressed. I don't give any compliments, don't flirt, and don't give up too much about myself. He's a little older than I, and he's been trying to find out my age but I haven't told him. Yesterday he came up to talk again and in the middle of the convo, said to me "if I could have a quarter for as many women who throw themselves at me, I would have so many quarters...blah, blah, blah", lol. Needless to say that turned me way off. Anyhoo, I laughed it off with him and said nothing. Today, he came up again and mentioned that he wouldn't mind dating a woman who's no younger than her early to mid 30's because he has a daughter in that age range and basically wouldn't want to feel like a perv.
I have shared with him things I do with my family (outings out of the state...) and was giving him tips on how he could find a decent woman in his age bracket (he said there are none, lol), and telling him of actual social events he could attend to find potentials. Anyhoo, I noticed he's been coming up more and more frequently and today during conversation in sort of an annoyed tone, he just blurts out - "are you spoiled?" Huh? I didn't really know how to answer this because I've never been asked such a weird(?) question in my life and now I regret being nice and talking to him as I sense frustration and that he's going to be a pest. I don't like him and feel like he's trying to get me to show interest?
Ladies, have you ever been asked this question by a guy before?
I guess since he has so many women throwing themselves at him, you were supposed to perk up and just fall at his feet. (I would have been turned off by that too). You didn't and threw off his game.
I've had guys tell me I'm spoiled, to which I just shrug, smile and tell them I deserve it.
I guess since he has so many women throwing themselves at him, you were supposed to perk up and just fall at his feet. (I would have been turned off by that too). You didn't and threw off his game.
I've had guys tell me I'm spoiled, to which I just shrug, smile and tell them I deserve it.
Thanks NWGirl,
Yes, I picked up on that. That he wants me to do the same as the others. like, umm..no. He's not even my type for Christmas' sake. I'm going to have to find a way to get rid of his pesky ass. Time for me to start mentioning "my man".
And good comeback 'cause you do deserve it! Think I'm gonna use that one!
Who cares? The guy's a jerk. Normal people don't ask that. Tell him it's none of his business. Maybe he thinks you've been giving him mixed signals, since you've been polite. Time to quash that, sounds like. Time to be "busy" when he comes in.
He's annoyed that you have not succumbed to his "charms" already.
It's a pain when you're trying to work and some guy who thinks he's God's gift keeps stopping by.
Don't give up any more personal info. Just keep being civil, and if he won't leave, maybe find a reason to get up and "go make copies."
Thank you, Wmsn.
lol @ "God's gift", and boy does he think so! I see straight through him. He's not worth a damn, and I'm buiding my strategy now to get rid of him for good. Thanks for the suggestion!
Who cares? The guy's a jerk. Normal people don't ask that. Tell him it's none of his business. Maybe he thinks you've been giving him mixed signals, since you've been polite. Time to quash that, sounds like. Time to be "busy" when he comes in.
You girls are so helpful! I'm truly learning the signs now. He's used to treating women like crap. It's so evident from the stories he tells me. Gonna get rid of him by "finding something to do" everytime he comes around now.
Thanks for your input, Ruth.
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