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So, I met this guy about a year ago on pof.com. We went out a couple of times, it went nowhere. For some reason I friended him on Facebook a few months ago. About a week ago he asks me out on a lunch date, which was yesterday. Today he posts about a date he has with another woman on Monday. I know he knows how to limit the audience for his posts, so he did this on purpose.
I decided that this was his not so classy way of letting me know he isn't interested and defriended him.
I have friends who think I'm being too sensitive. Just curious what the CD folks think of this situation.
Oh, not that it matters, but we are both in our 40's.
I think you're being too sensitive. Not everyone over thinks everything and is trying to "send a message" with everything they say and do so stop trying to read something into everything.
Men are expected to compete with other men for the girl, but women don't like competing do they?
Lesson learned for you I hope...don't friend anyone you casually date or have been 'casual' with. Imagine having all your casual dates on FB... oy, can make some look like a ho!
I think it's weird to post on FB when you have dates. I don't FB friend anyone I meet on a dating website. If I knew a guy for a few months and we were exclusively dating and I felt like he was going to be around for awhile then maybe. And then we would have to be pretty serious for me to change my relationship status. Most guys I meet online don't turn out to be lasting relationships. I find it awkward to constantly be defriending people and changing my status.
Men are expected to compete with other men for the girl, but women don't like competing do they?
I don't mind that he is dating other people, just that it seemed at the very least very insensitive to post that in such a way that I could see it. I do know he knows how to exclude people from seeing specific posts and it isn't all that time consuming/complicated, so he could have easily done this if he didn't want me to see the post. It was done on purpose.
Too much is being made out of nothing in is trivial in the entire scope of the big picture of life. You said you dated about a year ago a few times and it did not go anywhere. So he calls and asks you to lunch then he posts something on Facebook about another woman. You don't have much time or effort invested but it appears you have emotions invested in someone who obviously was not that interested in you or you in him a year ago. Why dwell on this issue? Take him off the friends list or not, your choice but I see no reason to waste any more time fussing over something you yourself went nowhere.
I don't mind that he is dating other people, just that it seemed at the very least very insensitive to post that in such a way that I could see it. I do know he knows how to exclude people from seeing specific posts and it isn't all that time consuming/complicated, so he could have easily done this if he didn't want me to see the post. It was done on purpose.
Nope. I'm in IT and know how to do it too but I never bother. I'm not hiding anything and I'm not sending hidden messages to anyone when I post what I'm doing. I am who I am and i do what i do and I generally put it out there. Some may like it some may not. But my experience is girls seem more attracted to guys who look like they have a life and not sitting around waiting for something to happen. It's a bit narcissistic to think a casual fb post about someone else is really meant for you. Just curious, what exactly did it say?
Of course, I won't start dating a woman I'm meeting next Monday, because we would mix like oil and water. But if, by some chance, we were to start dating, I'd never have to drive again because she refuses to ride in a car with an Obama bumper sticker. The scary part is that we're taking our guns to Deerfield to shoot at the shooting range, so we'll both be armed.
After people comment he goes on to say how there is something about this woman which he finds enticing - even though they have diametrically opposed political views and he says politics are very important to him.
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