Why do married men still feel the need to drool over other women? (wife, girlfriend)
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really guys this is a question for you...I want to understand the reasoning for this as a female. I have been married 2 times and still dont understand this need that men have to always be looking at other women. You say you love us and we are beautiful, sexy, blah blah blah. Well how do you think we feel about all that when we catch you eye screwing another lady. I gotta give some of you props though because you have it down to a science or think you do. You chick will be in a store with you and suddenly you see a girl who catches your eye, so you hang back a little pushing the buggy with all her stuff in it. My favorite is the" I have to go the mens room" which just happens to be in the direction she is going. Maybe you will get a chance to check out her rear end. What happened to "baby your so sexy"? Apparently it isnt enough to keep your attention to stay shopping with us instead of chasing her down. I mean even if it is just to drool and you arent the kind of guy that tries to get phone numbers for later, its still wrong. Why are you with the woman your with if you cant keep your eyes on the prize? My first husband , well I kind of knew what I was getting into when he told me before we were married that he had a fantasy of being with 2 women at a time. I was also younger than I am now and we know how that goes. I would even help his check out women by pointing them out when I saw one attractive, or one with assets I knew he liked. Eventually he ended up trying to cash in on the fantasy with me and thats when our marriage spiraled out of control. Not complaining to much I am now married to my second husband who is a much better man all around. However he still has the man phobia thing where he has to check out females in my presence. He does it with skill, no tripping over himself or running into poles. He even has made me at fault a few times saying that I want my hair a certain color and he was just looking at her hair picturing it on me....yeah right! My favorite in this case is "how do you know I was looking at her I could have been looking at something that just happened to be in that direction" Of course you were, her rear end. I am not at all ugly, I get plenty of guys trying to holla if you know what I mean. So I dont understand why my husband who is so inlove with me and tells me I am so hot all the time has this irresistable need to look at other womens assets. Its not a divorce matter because my love runs deeper than that. Im just not buying the "we are wired that way" logic. What are you thinking about when you see these women? More importantly what do you think they think about you when they see you are with someone and eyeballing them? Most women to tell you a secret dont like being stared at like a juicy steak. There is just no class in it. We dont enjoy the stupid comments or lame pick up lines either. They are so played out just so you know. Do you keep her image in your head so the next time you have sex with your beautiful girlfriend you can use it? Dont even try to say women do it too!!! I am here to tell you there are not enough good looking men that are worthy of that kind of looking. Sorry , just fact. Plus women dedicate to the man they love meaning no straying of any kind including checking out another man. Television men are different guys, we know we will never meet them in person so its all good. Out in public when you do this to your women your making yourself look stupid, and your dissrespecting the female your with. If you have a family with her that is even worse. When you married her you said for better or for worse in sickness and health. Lets say she put on a few pounds having those 2-3 kids of yours. You should be proud that was your doing. Besides your probaly not all that anymore either. You can always get a gym membership and go with her(eyes off the other girls there), help her and yourself. Treat her to a spa, or a new hair style, maybe get her nails done. She may not look exactly ike she did when you married her but one day your not going to be a GQ either dude and if you love her youll respect her feelings all the way. My husband checks out women when we go to the gym, and ocassionally when we are out in town and I am big enough to tell him I saw what he did and I am not happy. I wont let a man treat me that way. I am worth more than that and your women are too. It still hurts and it has made it where i dont go with him to the gym. I give it to him sometimes it isnt his fault because like a train wreck if a chick is dressed like a tramp everyone even other women are going to look. However what makes it okay for men to do this?
Because as pretty as you might be, you get bored looking at the same thing.
As long as its looking, dont sweat it.
Im female, soon to be married, and *I* look too. So does he. Hell, Ive even told him that if I ever saw Taylor Lautner in person, Id leave him for about 2 hours or so...He's said the same thing about Jessica Biel....It doesnt matter. He's coming home with me and we both know it.
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Originally Posted by Chellemate
really guys this is a question for you...I want to understand the reasoning for this as a female. I have been married 2 times and still dont understand this need that men have to always be looking at other women. You say you love us and we are beautiful, sexy, blah blah blah. Well how do you think we feel about all that when we catch you eye screwing another lady. I gotta give some of you props though because you have it down to a science or think you do. You chick will be in a store with you and suddenly you see a girl who catches your eye, so you hang back a little pushing the buggy with all her stuff in it. My favorite is the" I have to go the mens room" which just happens to be in the direction she is going. Maybe you will get a chance to check out her rear end. What happened to "baby your so sexy"? Apparently it isnt enough to keep your attention to stay shopping with us instead of chasing her down. I mean even if it is just to drool and you arent the kind of guy that tries to get phone numbers for later, its still wrong. Why are you with the woman your with if you cant keep your eyes on the prize? My first husband , well I kind of knew what I was getting into when he told me before we were married that he had a fantasy of being with 2 women at a time. I was also younger than I am now and we know how that goes. I would even help his check out women by pointing them out when I saw one attractive, or one with assets I knew he liked. Eventually he ended up trying to cash in on the fantasy with me and thats when our marriage spiraled out of control. Not complaining to much I am now married to my second husband who is a much better man all around. However he still has the man phobia thing where he has to check out females in my presence. He does it with skill, no tripping over himself or running into poles. He even has made me at fault a few times saying that I want my hair a certain color and he was just looking at her hair picturing it on me....yeah right! My favorite in this case is "how do you know I was looking at her I could have been looking at something that just happened to be in that direction" Of course you were, her rear end. I am not at all ugly, I get plenty of guys trying to holla if you know what I mean. So I dont understand why my husband who is so inlove with me and tells me I am so hot all the time has this irresistable need to look at other womens assets. Its not a divorce matter because my love runs deeper than that. Im just not buying the "we are wired that way" logic. What are you thinking about when you see these women? More importantly what do you think they think about you when they see you are with someone and eyeballing them? Most women to tell you a secret dont like being stared at like a juicy steak. There is just no class in it. We dont enjoy the stupid comments or lame pick up lines either. They are so played out just so you know. Do you keep her image in your head so the next time you have sex with your beautiful girlfriend you can use it? Dont even try to say women do it too!!! I am here to tell you there are not enough good looking men that are worthy of that kind of looking. Sorry , just fact. Plus women dedicate to the man they love meaning no straying of any kind including checking out another man. Television men are different guys, we know we will never meet them in person so its all good. Out in public when you do this to your women your making yourself look stupid, and your dissrespecting the female your with. If you have a family with her that is even worse. When you married her you said for better or for worse in sickness and health. Lets say she put on a few pounds having those 2-3 kids of yours. You should be proud that was your doing. Besides your probaly not all that anymore either. You can always get a gym membership and go with her(eyes off the other girls there), help her and yourself. Treat her to a spa, or a new hair style, maybe get her nails done. She may not look exactly ike she did when you married her but one day your not going to be a GQ either dude and if you love her youll respect her feelings all the way. My husband checks out women when we go to the gym, and ocassionally when we are out in town and I am big enough to tell him I saw what he did and I am not happy. I wont let a man treat me that way. I am worth more than that and your women are too. It still hurts and it has made it where i dont go with him to the gym. I give it to him sometimes it isnt his fault because like a train wreck if a chick is dressed like a tramp everyone even other women are going to look. However what makes it okay for men to do this?
Look honey. Men are just wired to notice attractive women and glance at them. If it goes past a couple of glances then you have a legit compliant. If you have you game right, your husband ain't going nowhere. Your man is gonna look at other women, deal with it.
My husband checks out women when we go to the gym, and ocassionally when we are out in town and I am big enough to tell him I saw what he did and I am not happy. I wont let a man treat me that way.
Talk about looking for trouble where there is none. As long as he is not stopping traffic, with his eyes bulging out of his head as he glances over the person...what is your deal again? Some of you are just ridiculous.
Dont pretend like women are not guilty of the same offense
We are not dead. We are married. (Although some find the two to be similar)
There is nothing wrong with looking at a pretty girl. Sounds like you are obsessed over it though... Your post sounds more like a control issue - or maybe a lack of self esteem on your part.
Look honey. Men are just wired to notice attractive women and glance at them. If it goes past a couple of glances then you have a legit compliant. If you have you game right, your husband ain't going nowhere. Your man is gonna look at other women, deal with it.
Its not even about having your game right. Whats wrong with glancing at someone else for a sec...her post reeks of serious insecurity. If my wife likes, she can look at whatever man she thinks is desirable. As long as that itch is quenched at home by yours truly...who gives a damn
really guys this is a question for you...I want to understand the reasoning for this as a female. I have been married 2 times and still dont understand this need that men have to always be looking at other women. You say you love us and we are beautiful, sexy, blah blah blah. Well how do you think we feel about all that when we catch you eye screwing another lady. I gotta give some of you props though because you have it down to a science or think you do. You chick will be in a store with you and suddenly you see a girl who catches your eye, so you hang back a little pushing the buggy with all her stuff in it. My favorite is the" I have to go the mens room" which just happens to be in the direction she is going. Maybe you will get a chance to check out her rear end. What happened to "baby your so sexy"? Apparently it isnt enough to keep your attention to stay shopping with us instead of chasing her down. I mean even if it is just to drool and you arent the kind of guy that tries to get phone numbers for later, its still wrong. Why are you with the woman your with if you cant keep your eyes on the prize? My first husband , well I kind of knew what I was getting into when he told me before we were married that he had a fantasy of being with 2 women at a time. I was also younger than I am now and we know how that goes. I would even help his check out women by pointing them out when I saw one attractive, or one with assets I knew he liked. Eventually he ended up trying to cash in on the fantasy with me and thats when our marriage spiraled out of control. Not complaining to much I am now married to my second husband who is a much better man all around. However he still has the man phobia thing where he has to check out females in my presence. He does it with skill, no tripping over himself or running into poles. He even has made me at fault a few times saying that I want my hair a certain color and he was just looking at her hair picturing it on me....yeah right! My favorite in this case is "how do you know I was looking at her I could have been looking at something that just happened to be in that direction" Of course you were, her rear end. I am not at all ugly, I get plenty of guys trying to holla if you know what I mean. So I dont understand why my husband who is so inlove with me and tells me I am so hot all the time has this irresistable need to look at other womens assets. Its not a divorce matter because my love runs deeper than that. Im just not buying the "we are wired that way" logic. What are you thinking about when you see these women? More importantly what do you think they think about you when they see you are with someone and eyeballing them? Most women to tell you a secret dont like being stared at like a juicy steak. There is just no class in it. We dont enjoy the stupid comments or lame pick up lines either. They are so played out just so you know. Do you keep her image in your head so the next time you have sex with your beautiful girlfriend you can use it? Dont even try to say women do it too!!! I am here to tell you there are not enough good looking men that are worthy of that kind of looking. Sorry , just fact. Plus women dedicate to the man they love meaning no straying of any kind including checking out another man. Television men are different guys, we know we will never meet them in person so its all good. Out in public when you do this to your women your making yourself look stupid, and your dissrespecting the female your with. If you have a family with her that is even worse. When you married her you said for better or for worse in sickness and health. Lets say she put on a few pounds having those 2-3 kids of yours. You should be proud that was your doing. Besides your probaly not all that anymore either. You can always get a gym membership and go with her(eyes off the other girls there), help her and yourself. Treat her to a spa, or a new hair style, maybe get her nails done. She may not look exactly ike she did when you married her but one day your not going to be a GQ either dude and if you love her youll respect her feelings all the way. My husband checks out women when we go to the gym, and ocassionally when we are out in town and I am big enough to tell him I saw what he did and I am not happy. I wont let a man treat me that way. I am worth more than that and your women are too. It still hurts and it has made it where i dont go with him to the gym. I give it to him sometimes it isnt his fault because like a train wreck if a chick is dressed like a tramp everyone even other women are going to look. However what makes it okay for men to do this?
Maybe you already addressed this, but: why are you asking us? Why don't you ask YOUR HUSBAND why HE does it?
It really doesn'y matter why "men" do anything; you're not married to/in a relationship with "men". You're married to your husband. It only matters why HE does it. And none if us can say why he does it....unless he posts here.
What if you talked to him about his checking out other women, and how it makes you feel? Without yelling, without blaming--just to find out why, and let him know how it makes you feel when you catch him doing it.
That's going to answer your question better than anything we can write here.
Because the same old person can become boring and repetitive. And many women become fat and ugly after marriage.
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really guys this is a question for you...I want to understand the reasoning for this as a female. 
