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Pop shrink time: you said you never thought you'd be in this situation. Does that mean you're usually the one crushing, without the feelings being returned? If so, I'd bet dollars to donuts that you're a commitmentphobe. You crush only on people you deep down know you could never have. Then when the real deal is in front of you, you just don't seem to "feel it."
Hey it was one of the few times I took a chance, and I think it was the last time I took a chance in the romatic department. I realized at that time that I didn't appreciate getting hurt like that, in that way. So I promised myself I wasn't going to let myself get hurt like that again.
OP, so you have already met you once, or is that not right? Only you can know if there is any chance of this relationship moving further or not. If it isn't, then move on...
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Originally Posted by JerZ
Well, hopefully he will answer this for himself.
No I am not like that. I'd have no problem committing to the right person who feels the same way. In this case, the girl is just not the right person for me. I feel it in my bones and they have never lied to me.
Broxguyanese, I believe I could convince this girl into an FWB situation if I wanted. However, I'm just not attracted to her like that and plus I'd like to think I have better taste then to get into a FWB with a person who already has hopes of more than that.
Okay here is the backdrop. A few days ago, I get a message from a girl I met through meetup. She says she has a crush on me. I was actually flattered by her message. Me and her get to talking and I ask her out on a date for this weekend. She accepts. I end up moving the date to next weekend for a few reasons. She's cool with it.
Now after sleeping on it a bit, I realize the only reason I asked her out was because I was flattered she had a crush on me. The truth is, I am not attracted to the girl. Just am not. Seems like a nice girl, just not for me.
I am, more venting than anything. I know what I need to do. I am going to be straight up and say, I like you as a friend but I just don't think of you in that way.
It is nice to be crushed on, but in this case I can't return the favor. Anyone else had this situation?
Yep. Better now than later.
And, no matter what you do, don't climb into the sack with her. It will make a tough situation a good deal worse.
No I am not like that. I'd have no problem committing to the right person who feels the same way. In this case, the girl is just not the right person for me. I feel it in my bones and they have never lied to me.
Broxguyanese, I believe I could convince this girl into an FWB situation if I wanted. However, I'm just not attracted to her like that and plus I'd like to think I have better taste then to get into a FWB with a person who already has hopes of more than that.
Your not attracted to get physically or is it her personality that is a turnoff?
Okay here is the backdrop. A few days ago, I get a message from a girl I met through meetup. She says she has a crush on me. I was actually flattered by her message. Me and her get to talking and I ask her out on a date for this weekend. She accepts. I end up moving the date to next weekend for a few reasons. She's cool with it.
Now after sleeping on it a bit, I realize the only reason I asked her out was because I was flattered she had a crush on me. The truth is, I am not attracted to the girl. Just am not. Seems like a nice girl, just not for me.
I am, more venting than anything. I know what I need to do. I am going to be straight up and say, I like you as a friend but I just don't think of you in that way.
It is nice to be crushed on, but in this case I can't return the favor. Anyone else had this situation?
I think you should just follow through with the date since you suggested it. One date doesn't mean it has to turn into anything and you could use the experience considering you just recently went out on your very first date.
I was in this girls position before. Do tell her please and before you go out.
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