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Old 10-22-2012, 05:58 PM
 
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Many opportunities have been missed by me because I get turned off by women who aren't looking for anything serious. I am the type of guy that takes relationships seriously and I could never see myself not giving a relationship all I could give or being with someone that doesn't give all they could give.

I look at people in a bar or club that end up in ONSes and think, how could they?

I am an overly serious man by nature, and sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be a bit less serious and loosen up or something. Should I give casual relationships a chance? Or would I be disappointed in them?
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Old 10-22-2012, 06:04 PM
 
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If you haven't tried it, you don't know if you'll like it.

I'm much more casual by nature. I enjoy a relationship in which I don't feel like I'm tied down. I actually get spooked when I find someone I think I want to commit to because I don't know how to handle it.

By casual I don't mean sleeping around.
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Old 10-22-2012, 06:08 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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I cannot believe that people are this........MOD CUT



All people are different. Some enjoy chocolate, some enjoy vanilla. Some are afraid to try pistachio

Why do people ask these questions?
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Old 10-22-2012, 06:10 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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A ONS is only one kind of a casual relationship.

Casual relationships can be very good if you both are on the same page and have the same expectations. They can fulfill multiple roles in your life.
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Old 10-22-2012, 06:17 PM
 
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I cannot believe that people are this........MOD CUT



All people are different. Some enjoy chocolate, some enjoy vanilla. Some are afraid to try pistachio

Why do people ask these questions?
I ate pistachio ice cream once....

Several years later...

I am still looking for it to be sold in my grocery store....
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Old 10-24-2012, 06:20 PM
 
Location: Podunk, Cackalacky
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I find that many men do enjoy casual relationships, but most women don't. These are just my personal observations though, based on guys I've dated and conversations with my female friends. Not to speak for all the women in the world, because naturally we're all different, but often women who get into casual relationships and ONSs end up getting hurt because even though her head and her crotch were saying "let's just have fun," the heart has the final word, and it usually says "why isn't he calling?" And on some level she may have been thinking that she'd win him over and move on to a serious relationship, while the man was just thinking "cool, ONS". It's taken me 10 years of dating to realize and admit that I want a serious relationship.

I hope my babbling helps you.
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Old 11-04-2012, 10:20 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Well I'm a woman and I enjoyed casual relationships in my 20's. It was party time after I married too young and got divorced. For me it was a stage I needed to go through and get out of my system before I met the love of my life. No regrets here. It was a good growth period and a lot of fun.
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Old 11-04-2012, 10:55 AM
 
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I personally don't see the point of being in a "casual relationship" with someone if it's never going to be serious or if you're never going to get married. It seems pointless and a waste of time.
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Old 11-04-2012, 10:58 AM
 
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I personally don't see the point of being in a "casual relationship" with someone if it's never going to be serious or if you're never going to get married. It seems pointless and a waste of time.
It could always evolve.
That's the point.
There are a number of women here looking for a casual relationship, and I am sure some of them are decent people.
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Old 11-04-2012, 11:46 AM
 
Location: SF CA, USA
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I would not know, but it seems so. Whatever rocks their socks off, so to speak. Personally I doubt I could be happy in a relationship like that, but maybe I should try it sometime.
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