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People with outer beauty have personal issues too. A 10 in the physical does not guarantee a 10 in character and red flags aren't always about looks. I once chased after a gorgeous, model looking guy, for an entire year despite the fact that he was able to remain in a relationship longer than 6 months...with any woman...and he dated many. There's a problem there. But he could only see that these women were the issue, not him.
my problem of late is i'm meeting women who are in a relationship, married or "seeing someone" (i hate that term so much now) or long distance has been a b***h too, these responses i get.
i know i'm not the most attractive guy but i know i am attractive but i will only consider a girl to be my GF or ask out on dates if i'm attracted to her and she has a good personality, if she has both i'd be lucky if she even considers to date me or is at least single.
i have been broke out of my quiet shell and been more social but i've gotten these responses about 90% of the time
I was talking to my Sis the other day and she made a great point. And of course this isn't the majority of the time but something to look at
Alot of the really good looking men(especially younger) tend to not want serious relationships in their late teens and most of their 20's(and some ever). They exploit the fact that they're good looking play the field, and sleep with many women. The problem is that the good looking women that they would normally be paired up with want relationships and commitment just like any other women. So the choice is either to be a Bootycall to the same good looking men and nothing else, settle hard in terms of finding a partner, or stay alone
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Another insight:
Alot of good looking people OR people in general complain nobody want to date them because they only want to date SOMEBODY on the same level of attractiveness with them. IN other words, they disregard all the other date proposals from people who they think are not in their level of attractiveness.
Coming from Miami, I have alot of friends who complained about that. They are good looking but they complained they had no dates.
ONe of my friend, who is a beautiful Cuban lady is an example. She kept complaining that she could not get dates. While in reality, the day before I knew for the fact that there was an average looking guy asked her out. (And of course she rejected him).
Alot of good looking people OR people in general complain nobody want to date them because they only want to date SOMEBODY on the same level of attractiveness with them. IN other words, they disregard all the other date proposals from people who they think are not in their level of attractiveness.
In my opinion, it's all relative.
I just got a rep from someone with a comment that said Tiger Woods' ex-wife is kind of plain-looking. In reality, take away the Neiman Marcus wardrobe and the $400 haircuts, and I tend to agree that she would be just an average type of girl. Likewise when people go around telling you how great looking they are, sight unseen, I usually brace myself for a big letdown when I actually see a photo.
SOMEBODY may think you're great looking, but only a small segment of the population has such universal good looks that you are going to have a consensus.
People can't even agree on the Brad Pitts of the world let alone some ******* who posts here. Likewise, Jennifer Anniston's fiance (?) - that Thoreau guy - I thought was kind of dorky-looking at first but he has grown on me.
Looks are relative. Looks get your foot in the door and personality is what seals the deal.
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In my opinion, it's all relative.
I just got a rep from someone with a comment that said Tiger Woods' ex-wife is kind of plain-looking. In reality, take away the Neiman Marcus wardrobe and the $400 haircuts, and I tend to agree that she would be just an average type of girl. Likewise when people go around telling you how great looking they are, sight unseen, I usually brace myself for a big letdown when I actually see a photo.
SOMEBODY may think you're great looking, but only a small segment of the population has such universal good looks that you are going to have a consensus.
People can't even agree on the Brad Pitts of the world let alone some ******* who posts here. Likewise, Jennifer Anniston's fiance (?) - that Thoreau guy - I thought was kind of dorky-looking at first but he has grown on me.
Looks are relative. Looks get your foot in the door and personality is what seals the deal.
I totally agree with you.
But again, this is coming from that person who complains he /she cannot get a date.
But I understand why you misunderstood what I said - I was a bit vague.
Usually the person who cannot get a date, will think that they are good looking and they should get somebody who is on the same level.
For me, I actually don't look at people based on their appearance. Sometimes the way they talk can be attractive. Or their mannerism. So I am rather flexible when I was dating.
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