Leaving vs Abondoning

[nimchimpsky]

I think the terminology depends more on the circumstances than the sex of the partners. I left my ex because she was abusing me. We're both women.

[Frihed89]

There are no rules. Anger rules.

[Lilac110]

If you ask for a divorce, approach the separation like an adult, and support your children as is your responsibility as a father, without bitterness or acrimony, you're a man who has left your wife.

If you take off and attempt to disappear into the woodwork with no intention of supporting your own children so that your future-former has to track you down and nail your balls to the wall in a courtroom, you're a skid who has abandoned your family.

[ShellNic]

Originally Posted by Del Boy

You leaving her because you want to bang other females? That's selfish and weak.

You need to step up to the plate and handle your business. If you were man enough to get married, you ought to be man enough to stay married.

This is especially true if she isn't doing anything to merit a divorce; IE infidelity.

I don't recall the OP mentioning any of this - way to bash without all the information...which none of us really have. Wow. Just wow.

[le roi]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

If you ask for a divorce, approach the separation like an adult, and support your children as is your responsibility as a father, without bitterness or acrimony, you're a man who has left your wife.

If you take off and attempt to disappear into the woodwork with no intention of supporting your own children so that your future-former has to track you down and nail your balls to the wall in a courtroom, you're a skid who has abandoned your family.

op has no kids

[findly185]

Its not abandoning unless someone is completely dependent on their SO, and I dont mean just financially. If you're in good health and can support yourself I dont think I would consider it abandoning. Now, if you're a paraplegic and your SO walks out...I would consider that an abandoning situation.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by findly185

Its not abandoning unless someone is completely dependent on their SO, and I dont mean just financially. If your in good health and can support yourself I dont think I would consider it abandoning. Now, if your a paraplegic and your SO walks out...I would consider that an abandoning situation.

I'd tend to agree with this. My sister and her ex weren't happy; he'd refused to go to counseling, etc. One day she came home from work and all his stuff was gone--he'd moved in with another woman. I'd probably consider it abandoning if she hadn't been able to support herself, but in their case he just left.