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Out walking my dogs earlier, I encountered a man also walking his. He passed me and then circled back to ask what breed they are. I told him and commented on his as well. Good looking guy. Too bad in the course of our conversation he mentioned "we" a couple of times in reference to the ownership of his dog. Did his turning back mean he was interested? Yes, in the breed of my dogs but nothing else.
Haha. Poor guy. Well not really... you were involved and he didn't step up...
I was engaged and he knew that but he didn't know when exactly I was getting married until I told him. I really felt bad but just didn't recognize the signs. Even if he did step up, I was engaged but if I wasn't or if I wasn't in a serious relationship I would have went out with him. It's funny--after his co-worker told me what happened (I'm leaving out a lot of details to maintain some anonimity lol) and I looked back at our conversations, he really was interested. I hope he found a good woman to make happy. He really was a great guy.
Out walking my dogs earlier, I encountered a man also walking his. He passed me and then circled back to ask what breed they are. I told him and commented on his as well. Good looking guy. Too bad in the course of our conversation he mentioned "we" a couple of times in reference to the ownership of his dog. Did his turning back mean he was interested? Yes, in the breed of my dogs but nothing else.
I was engaged and he knew that but he didn't know when exactly I was getting married until I told him. I really felt bad but just didn't recognize the signs. Even if he did step up, I was engaged but if I wasn't or if I wasn't in a serious relationship I would have went out with him. It's funny--after his co-worker told me what happened (I'm leaving out a lot of details to maintain some anonimity lol) and I looked back at our conversations, he really was interested. I hope he found a good woman to make happy. He really was a great guy.
Great women such as yourself can be difficult to find as a man.
Interesting. I ask guys this all the time and its usually just friendly conversation, nothing more.
Do you mean friends or complete strangers? I ask my friends what they're up to later. I've worked in retail my entire life and never asked a customer who I didn't know what they were up to later. Very good customers with whom I had a very good rapport with didn't ask me that nor did I ask them. We would make casual conversations like "how was your weekend?" or even ask about planned vacations or if they were doing anything forbthe weekend, but again, it was with someone I knew well.
I find that "what are you up to?" is code for "what's up" "how's it going" and "how are you" for people from certain regions when talking to their peers. I hadn't heard this term until recently. Oddly enough only from Gulf Coast I think. So I am going to chalk it up to regional variances.
Do you have a hard time telling sometimes if someone is being friendly or flirting?
I sure do. As recent as yesterday. Was buying some clothes. Coversation with the female worker went something like this.....
General small talk then talking about the clothes. As I was paying for the clothes, she says "What are you upto after this?, going home to relax?". Wouldn't be interested in her romantically, even if I was single.
But was left wondering whether she was hitting on me or just being friendly.
I think sometimes there is a fine line between the two.
This is one of many reasons I recommend the direct approach. You can ask for a phone number, date, etc. and then you'll have your answer with much more certainty. I really dislike the 'she'll let you know if she's interested' [so don't take any initiative] philosophy. There are too many assumptions involved in that. Plus, f you ask nicely and don'y push if you receive a firm denial, you're not doing anything wrong.
Do you mean friends or complete strangers? I ask my friends what they're up to later. I've worked in retail my entire life and never asked a customer who I didn't know what they were up to later. Very good customers with whom I had a very good rapport with didn't ask me that nor did I ask them. We would make casual conversations like "how was your weekend?" or even ask about planned vacations or if they were doing anything forbthe weekend, but again, it was with someone I knew well.
I interpret it as an innocent question. I would ask most people that I was having a basic conversation with. "Big plans this evening?" Or "What are you up to tonight; anything fun?" Something like that.
I interpret it as an innocent question. I would ask most people that I was having a basic conversation with. "Big plans this evening?" Or "What are you up to tonight; anything fun?" Something like that.
Guess I need to rethink that. lol
Each case is different. In some cases, the person saying this may want to meet later and, in other cases, it means nothing. That's why it's better to ask if you're interested in getting together.
Each case is different. In some cases, the person saying this may want to meet later and, in other cases, it means nothing. That's why it's better to ask if you're interested in getting together.
The direct close is the best close imo.
However, I am a bigger fan of the indirect approach.
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