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I did like the guy I wrote about. In fact I wrote that "I definitely did like him". But I didn't know him well enough to love him, which is why I wrote that I wasn't crazy about him in my title. My downfall was that I wasn't honest with myself about what I wanted. I told myself I didn't need a relationship, but in my heart I thought it would head that way with him. I think a FWB can be totally doable (pun intended) when you know that you don't want more with that person. It's a tricky thing, and I don't think everyone can do it or even wants to do it -- have a FWB, that is.
Thank you for looking out for me! I'm definitely going to be more careful in the future.
It hurts because you let your guard down and let someone in. It is more about you at this point than him. Do some soul searching and figure out what you want your next relationship to look and feel like, and then refuse to accept less. You probably compromised your values being sexually involved w/ someone you really didn't have love for...Just wait it out, don't rush into sex....let it be a natural occurrence after you develop real feelings.
Like you mentioned earlier before, not being honest to yourself?
Sometimes our minds can play tricks on us- be it hormones, ego, giving people the benefit of the doubt..
Yes, this it totally what I did. It was a combination of what you mentioned -- hormones, ego, premature trust. My mind was clear the first couple times we hung out, and I knew that I really liked him but there were warning signs. Then I got hooked on the attention and told myself the problems would work themselves out.
Yes, it's definitely more about me than him. I hardly knew him, but it still stings. Also it pisses me off that he showered me with attention when he wanted my attention, but when he didn't need the ego/hormone satisfaction, he shifted me to the back burner until he wanted it again.
Anyway, I don't really regret the experience because it has jolted me out of my stupor. I need to experience life and the pain that comes with it in order to clarify what I want. For me, it's how I process the experience that determines my future well-being.
Your ego is hurt - your image of yourself . . . not your "real" self - but the facade you have created . . . it is actually good that it was hurt because it is not your friend. Tear it down and replace it with something real.
Your ego is hurt - your image of yourself . . . not your "real" self - but the facade you have created . . . it is actually good that it was hurt because it is not your friend. Tear it down and replace it with something real.
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