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She works with you, is older than you, is brand new at work, and has a boyfriend.
What is your idea of "success" in this situation?
This has disaster written all over it.
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Originally Posted by ellie
I often wonder about posts like this, particularly when phrases like "longing glances" come into the discussion. You have a woman at work who is new, friendly, and all of a sudden she has the hots for you because she accidentally touched your hand or flipped her hair? Buying a beer for you sounds odd, but this is your story and your interpretation of otherwise unremarkable behavior.
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Originally Posted by Suncc49
If you bone her, be prepared to lose your job.
Do not dip your pen in Company Ink.
all of the above.
OP, perhaps she was just trying to ingratiate herself with the 'boys'? she is new, after all, so buying someone drinks is really not a big deal. as men we tend to overthink things and often mis-interpret friendliness as flirtatiousness. don't make this mistake.
besides, even if she did want something, workplace affairs are just too much trouble.
Don't do it. Workplace flings/relationships are never a good idea. You risk much more than uncomfortable silence or stares in a meeting. You could be risking your job or chances to move up. Many managers/executives frown upon such things. You could be violating company policy if she is in your department...that's something you should consider as well.
I had a 3-month romance with a coworker in my last job. We both kept it secret, but when things went south, it was difficult to go to work and see her every day. Tread very lightly...
There are plenty of single ladies out there that you don't have to see in the office everyday. Plus I doubt she's as into you as you think. She was likely just being friendly.
I often wonder about posts like this, particularly when phrases like "longing glances" come into the discussion. You have a woman at work who is new, friendly, and all of a sudden she has the hots for you because she accidentally touched your hand or flipped her hair? Buying a beer for you sounds odd, but this is your story and your interpretation of otherwise unremarkable behavior.
Argggh I was listening to a big old crusty bore banging on and on about his carp the other day.
I was sooooo bored I zoned out completely...and woke up to find myself twirling my hair.
Any LOSER would immediately assume I was flirting with him, instead of actually being bored to tears as I was.
Gosh, she has a boyfriend. Doesnt that mean anything to anyone anymore? I would just leave it alone. And if she ever actually came out and ASKED to go out, etc..etc.. I would tell her sure..as soon as you dont have that thing called a 'boyfriend'.
Why are you even going there. She may have just been being nice. You are probably reading way to o much into this. I would back off. People loose their jobs over this type stuff.
Argggh I was listening to a big old crusty bore banging on and on about his carp the other day.
I was sooooo bored I zoned out completely...and woke up to find myself twirling my hair.
Any LOSER would immediately assume I was flirting with him, instead of actually being bored to tears as I was.
That's pretty common but it does relate really well to this story... If she did have the time; She was flirting with you however, dating a co-worker is a horrible idea... chances are she just wants to fit in with everyone anyway. Being a new worker you just want to make some friends and i bet that's what she's doing. Awkward glaces are very common between people and they mean nothing unless some type of other action is thrown in with it.
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