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My wife is very strong willed person, and she's a financial control freak. I'm more lenient when it comes to purchases to make our lives more comfortable. We are both workaholics equally financially off and our egos clash at times. We have two kids together and she has been insisting we get divorced weekly, which goes into a heated conversation. I don't believe in separation and she's more open to the idea. My mother-in-law is very much like her and her parents have both separated years ago, but still cohabitant together. My parents have worked through their mountain of issues and have worked out to stay married since 1970.
She claims I have some anger management issues sometimes, but when I try to avoid any situation and walk away to a quiet place, she's always following me and continues to grill me. I even get more mad and yell at her to get away. I want to avoid a verbal argument, but she's insisting on having one. She's always backing me into a corner.
We have had another child (girl) last year, and I have been kicked out of the master bedroom for the last 7 years because I snore. I have been sleeping besides my older daughter in her bed for a long time. My daughters and I are very close, best friends and I adore them greatly. I think I spoil them, but I am working on that.
Ok, stop sleeping in the same bed as your daughter. That's just weird. I'd sleep in the same bed as my daddy or mommy when I was very young, but that was a special "treat" with slumber party overtones, not the normal course of the day. If you're that well off, you can afford a good air mattress or pullout couch.
And MARRIAGE COUNSELING. ASAP. Because it sounds like you both have issues and I'm thinking you're creating a hellish environment for your kids. If your wife won't join you, go by yourself, and make plans to separate and get custody. Because you're not doing your kids any favors by maintaining the status quo.
You neglected to mention why your wife wants a divorce, but I will say that you need to consider yourself in this situation. You live in what may be described as a "hostile environment" and your wife sounds like she is very aggressive/manipulative when it comes to you and your emotions. I understand that you're close to your kids, but they would survive if you and your wife split.
One thing to consider could be a "trial separation", especially if it would give you some peace to reconcile your own feelings on the matter. Of course, I'd suggest that you first get to the root of why she wants to split up. If she wants to see someone else, then you have a whole other route to consider.
I agree with Jrz, stop sleeping beside your daughter and get some marriage counseling. You both have a communication problem.
I dont understand the point of a seperation if you will be living together. Does your wife want an all out divorce?
The other issue I forgot to mention, is that our house has been occupied by my mother-in-law, not by my choice, but she did help out with our children after they were born. When I threatened to move her to my sister-in-law's place, I also got threatened with separation/divorce speech. When my mother-in-law is gone for an extended period of time, my wife and I get along a lot better.
The other issue I forgot to mention, is that our house has been occupied by my mother-in-law, not by my choice, but she did help out with our children after they were born. When I threatened to move her to my sister-in-law's place, I also got threatened with separation/divorce speech. When my mother-in-law is gone for an extended period of time, my wife and I get along a lot better.
Have you tried NOT threatening and try to have a civil adult convo with your wife about how although you appriciate all the help from your MIL with the children during a difficut time your family now needs to settle into a routine.
There seems to be much threatening going on in your family. You two need to figure a way to sit down and communicate in a reasonable manner.
And if your MIL is there maybe you should sleep where she is sleeping and she should be sharing a room with your daughter.
Have you tried NOT threatening and try to have a civil adult convo with your wife about how although you appriciate all the help from your MIL with the children during a difficut time your family now needs to settle into a routine.
There seems to be much threatening going on in your family. You two need to figure a way to sit down and communicate in a reasonable manner.
And if your MIL is there maybe you should sleep where she is sleeping and she should be sharing a room with your daughter.
I need to write her an email and tell her to please stay out of my affairs, and that she needs to stay away from us. Also thanking her for her help, but now it's becoming a burden on our marriage.
OP, you made the mistake of getting married in the first place and there's really nothing more I can say about it.
You messed up.
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