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View Poll Results: Do you know right away when you meet the one?
Yes 5 35.71%
No 6 42.86%
Not sure 3 21.43%
Voters: 14. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 11-02-2012, 08:06 PM
 
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I am curious to know if people have a gut feeling that they met the "one" (or one of the ones) before they got to know them well. I think that being over invested or putting people on a pedestal is foolish before you really know them. But is there some kind of sense you have had early on that someone is the right person, compared to most every one else? Of course you investigate further, by dating them, but the initial feeling is confirmed. I have had that feeling once and it ended up being the most significant relationship so far. That ended, but I realize that that gut feeling was rare (the only time in several years), so there must be something to it.
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Old 11-02-2012, 08:19 PM
 
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Did I think he was the one when we met? No. Did I like him immediately? Yes. It's only in retrospect that you attach that kind of significance to a first encounter.

I know of at least two, if not several other, significant relationships that began with an immediate liking.

Common sense says you will probably feel something for the person you end up with.
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Old 11-02-2012, 08:38 PM
 
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It is called infatuation. You can speculate all you want.
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Old 11-03-2012, 05:48 AM
 
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Yes, I felt he was a geek and a "nerd" (a 70's expression for dork) when we were introduced. He was my new boss! His feelings for me were different - he says he was attracted to me soon after we met. Then I got to know him, and like him, and by the time we had our first date - almost six months later - we knew we were meant for each other, and got married a year later. We'll be celebrating our 32nd wedding anniversary next summer.
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Old 11-03-2012, 08:51 AM
 
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Yes!!!
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Old 11-03-2012, 09:04 AM
 
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For every person who says yes about their LTR, there are 100+ more people who felt this way about someone and it turned out they were wrong. Infatuation and lust, those are the initial feelings of "chemistry" that people have.
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Old 11-03-2012, 09:07 AM
 
Location: NY
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I voted "not sure" but I could have said yes. Maybe not in the way you mean it.

When I first met my wife in the flesh, I had known her for some time. So I knew a lot about her. We originally met through online dating.

However, our first date felt very different than the first dates I had been on previously. She felt different to me, genuine, honest, down to earth, not trying to be fake to impress, or exagerate, or any of that sort of stuff.

So in that regard, I felt our first date was a breath of fresh air in the realm of first dates. I was taken.

That said, we had communicated for so long, and knew each other so well, it wasn't really like the typical first date either... so I cannot say it was "love at first site" like many would picture in their minds.
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Old 11-04-2012, 08:39 AM
 
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For every person who says yes about their LTR, there are 100+ more people who felt this way about someone and it turned out they were wrong. Infatuation and lust, those are the initial feelings of "chemistry" that people have.

There may be some feelings of infatuation involved. You can be infatuated with someone you know is wrong and you know that you could date them a little then it would fizzle out as the newness wore out. I think the "feeling" is a result of a little bit of infatuation and the person being an actual viable match in the long run.
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Old 09-29-2014, 04:09 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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Having that feeling does not guarantee success, but I'd bet NOT having any "feeling" is an indicator that success is less likely.
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Old 09-29-2014, 04:24 PM
 
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Yes, but we started out as really good friends and the feelings grew over time.
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