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View Poll Results: How do couples match up evenly?
Women's physical attractiveness equal to man's physical attractiveness? 27 40.30%
Women's physical attractiveness on par with man's financial status? 40 59.70%
Voters: 67. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 04-04-2016, 12:00 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Neither. People are matched based on individual preferences and circumstance. Traditionally, men were chosen based on their ability to provide and usually matched with attractive women. Today, this is really no longer a reality for most.
This. Those studies that conclude that people go for the most attractive people they can get, and that people generally are well-matched for attractiveness are conducted with groups of complete strangers. That doesn't mimic the conditions of real life, where many people who eventually pair up already know each other and have insight into each other's characters, personalities, and values. Experiments done on complete strangers produce skewed and unreliable results, except for the guys who complain about approaching strangers and getting rejected. For them, those experiments hold some relevance.
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:24 PM
 
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Looks/money. No doubt.
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:41 PM
 
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Slight majority towards looks/looks

A fair percentage womans looks/man's finances

Almost never a mans looks/woman finances
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:42 PM
 
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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I can't vote because I don't agree with either option.
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Old 04-04-2016, 12:56 PM
 
Location: Ralphs
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It has to do with more than just looks and/or money.
Actually, I agree with this. It's not so simple. I guess personality has nothing to do with anything? Intellect? Come on guys. If you really believe this then you're wading in the shallow end of the kiddie pool.
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Old 04-04-2016, 01:40 PM
 
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Actually, I agree with this. It's not so simple. I guess personality has nothing to do with anything? Intellect? Come on guys. If you really believe this then you're wading in the shallow end of the kiddie pool.
Sure it does

Looks 60% Personality 30% Intellect 10%
(5% margin for error)
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Old 04-04-2016, 02:16 PM
 
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We all have seen it, no need to deny realities.
Well, except by inserting something that was never said into the mouths of middle school girls in a "women are all b-----s!" style meme?

Then there's the need to deny realities...is that correct?

Come on, give us some parameters here, the rules keep changing. Do you have a flow chart of this? I'm losing track of which B.S. we're supposed to believe and nod sagely at and which we're supposed to pooh-pooh as unreality.
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Old 04-04-2016, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Mableton, GA USA (NW Atlanta suburb, 4 miles OTP)
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Come on, give us some parameters here, the rules keep changing. Do you have a flow chart of this? I'm losing track of which B.S. we're supposed to believe and nod sagely at and which we're supposed to pooh-pooh as unreality.
Oh, come on. It should be obvious. If a man posts it, it must be true. If a woman posts it... I can't say it.

Please don't hit me.
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Old 04-04-2016, 02:39 PM
 
Location: NW Nevada
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You didn't provide enough options in the poll. What if we don't agree with the premiss at all?
Indeed. My lady and I are not matched based on our looks or financial status. We're matched simply because we're just flat taken with each other, for a lot of reasons. To me, she is the most beautiful person I've ever encountered, and what society thinks matters not a whit to me. For her part, as to looks, she could probably do better than I. But neither of us tend to dwell on that. Our relationship is based on how we relate to each other, and our rapport is a rare thing, and on a deep understanding of each others fears, desires, and it just seems as if we complete each other.

Doesn't genuine love, mutual respect and understanding, relating to each others life experiences, support for each other etc, matter to people anymore? Everything seems based on total materialism and physical things to a great many people these days, when looking at relationships these days. Looks, money, social status, its like a giant high school scene out there. My lady is a gift from above. I feel very fortunate we have what we have, and dating is a thing of the past.
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Old 04-04-2016, 03:57 PM
 
Location: Ralphs
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Sure it does

Looks 60% Personality 30% Intellect 10%
(5% margin for error)
This is much closer to reality than the original question IMO.
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