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Off topic: My border collie likes looking at me too. She is stationed on my deck and stares at me whenever I am in her view. I can feel her eyes on my right now as I am posting this; it's kind of unnerving because I wonder if she is plotting my death
OP: If you're flattered by his stares, just roll with it.
100% flattering is my hunch. He sounds deeply into you.
Years ago, I found myself doing the same with a now, unfortunately deceased SO's eyes. It was first at a NYC Italian restaurant, and it went on for several minutes, as I have never seen such beautiful colors. She realized it and I did tell her what was going on, and I could tell at first she was somewhat uncomfortable, but quickly realized it was 110% flattering.
You are right, it is flattering
Sorry to hear about your loss. I can imagine she must have had the most amazing eyes...
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Originally Posted by rego00123
this is usually it for me. although it really depends on my mood at "that moment" sometimes i look at her and realize just how attracted i still am to her (not sexually, just in general...its been 10 years and i still find her great looking), sometimes im taking note of how shes done her hair that day, whats shes wearing etc etc, sometimes im just watching her do daily activities because she still intrigues me as a person. if i happen to be in a spunky mood, well...im usually checking her fantastic ass out
there is no one point of looking at my wife on not being shy about. it just a general interest in the women i married drawing me to do so
Your wife is lucky to have you. You can't imagine how amazing that feels for a woman, especially when there are so many beautiful women everywhere, to have a husband who still looks at you with so much desire.
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Originally Posted by srjth
Lucky girl.
I am, aren't I?
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Originally Posted by Montguy
LOL, I don't know. At first, your post kinda reminded me of Mark Whalberg and Reese Witherspoon in that one movie...
For a minute there, I was thinking that this story was taking a more sinister direction (I negelected to notice the smiley face in the thread's title), and I had to laugh at all the different ways that everything prior to "And the way he was doing so..." could be misconstrued.
My mistake.
Oh I get it now. Yeah I saw that movie And no, its not like that with us. He gets jealous to a point, like when guys (especially ex-bfs) call me, but he doesn't get obsessed or freak out.
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Originally Posted by Peanuttree
awwwwwww
you must really be pretty to him.
We honestly just like looking.
On a more scientific note, our brains are wired to do this, and seeing women turns on the pleasure part of the brain, it's pleasurable to us. It's probably an evolutionary trait designed to get men to chase, try to get women. As in, Look -> enjoy -> get horny -> want woman -> go try to get woman -> babies made, genes spread.
Wow, thank you. I guess he does find me pretty. He used to say his jaw dropped when we first met. Exaggeration of course, but makes me fall for him all the more. Every time
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Originally Posted by ReblTeen84
This. When my wife and I first started dating and sleeping together (actual sleeping, she wanted to wait till marrriage), she didn't realize that I could see her when she got dressed in the morning in the dark. You'd best believe I looked. When I told her about it, she turned as red as could be and got the best grin I've ever seen on her face...I guess she didn't think I'd enjoy the view? lol
I salute your will power and respect for your wife! I'm sure your wife felt like the most beautiful woman in the world when you told her that. Looks like somebody got very lucky that night
There was one night my bf was watching TV in bed. I was undressing down to my underwear (which incidentally happened to be a black strapless bra and black string panties, not a thong). I could feel him watching me more intensely than usual, but I thought it was because I was blocking the TV.
When I lay next to him, he told me to stand up again. I asked him why. He said, "I just wanna look at you." I pouted and refused. He really insisted! So I stood up and well "so did he" I saw how "happy" it made him...
I am being so naughty already, I know...
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Originally Posted by FNP24
This guy I'm dating does the same thing. One night he actually stared at me for about a hour..He says he's was only looking at me and is admiring my beauty. I guess I can't get upset with that. It does feel weird at first especially being very shy like the OP. He likes you though...don't doubt it...
It feels so good, doesn't it? What guys can do to you when they admire you... You must have taken his breath away for him to stare at you for an hour!
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Off topic: My border collie likes looking at me too. She is stationed on my deck and stares at me whenever I am in her view. I can feel her eyes on my right now as I am posting this; it's kind of unnerving because I wonder if she is plotting my death
OP: If you're flattered by his stares, just roll with it.
Cats and babies stare at me too and you never know why with them
Oh I roll, alright. Believe me, I roll
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Hehe this is cute... sounds like you two are a very happy couple!
We are. Thank you I'm savoring all the happy feelings and enjoying everything, so I will have something to make me strong when the road ahead gets tough...
If I find any woman attractive, I will stare at her as long as i please. I will check out each and every body part that interests me, and the fact that she sees me or others see me doing this, means absolutely nothing. THere is absolutely nothing wrong with a man admiring a body of a woman he fiuns sexualy appealing. Its the most natural thing in the world and should be expected. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, its because you have been brainwashed to believe there is something worng with this type of action when in reality there really isnt.
When we first started dating, I would sometimes catch my boyfriend looking at me. He would then act casual and look away or like he's looking at me because we're talking.
It was kind of embarrassing and flattering at the same time. I would then secretly look at myself in the mirror (or anywhere I can see my reflection) to see if I have anything on my face
But now, months into the relationship, he's been more "vulgar." When he's watching TV and I'm doing something else, he would suddenly look at me and stare, until I have to ask him what's wrong. He'd say nothing.
When he's sleeping, I would snuggle next to him, wrap his arms around me... and seconds later I'd realize his snoring has stopped. I would look up at his face and find him looking at me.
This morning, I woke up to see him getting dressed for work. I watched him with half-closed eyes. He was also looking at me. When he was done dressing, he came up to me in bed and stared at me again. His face was so close to mine that it made me conscious.
Of course he'd already brushed and bathed, while I lay in bed with mussed hair, no make up and possibly rheum in my eyes... I covered his eyes with my hand. He removed my hands and held them in his. I asked him what's wrong and he said, "I just wanna look at you. You know I always look at you."
And the way he was doing so, I seriously thought he would get undressed again. LOL But then he kissed me and told me to go back to sleep...
Just couldn't keep the incident from my mind, I just had to share it
I wonder what really goes on in a man's mind when he's looking at his woman?
He's trying to remember if you have an innie or an outie. Or he has gas.
I just don't like being the center of attention even with my husband, it makes me very uncomfortable to have anyone's focus that intense on me alone. It doesn't help that I've had 2 stalker's and I am quite uncomfortable in crowds as well. I get quite overwhelmed with a lot of people surrounding me or someone focusing that much on me, even in the grocery. Thank goodness my husband understands and he comes and saves me from being completely overwhelmed when it is needed.
I'm sorry that you have gone through that. I myself have a little bit of social anxiety and I have dealt with someone who was fixated and obsessed with me for a while...
I'm glad that you have a husband that is supportive of you.
you must really be pretty to him.
We honestly just like looking.
On a more scientific note, our brains are wired to do this, and seeing women turns on the pleasure part of the brain, it's pleasurable to us. It's probably an evolutionary trait designed to get men to chase, try to get women. As in, Look -> enjoy -> get horny -> want woman -> go try to get woman -> babies made, genes spread.
You just had to ruin the magic with all this dead science mumbo jumbo... LOL!!!
Actually I agree with that. Us men are more visually stimulated. Like Peanuttree said, our brains are wired in a way that makes men more inclined to take more in visually.
At the same time, I've seen women act that way.
At first, I'd be uncomfortable, only because I am not used to it. After a while, I'd get used to it, and I return the favor.
If I find any woman attractive, I will stare at her as long as i please. I will check out each and every body part that interests me, and the fact that she sees me or others see me doing this, means absolutely nothing. THere is absolutely nothing wrong with a man admiring a body of a woman he fiuns sexualy appealing. Its the most natural thing in the world and should be expected. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, its because you have been brainwashed to believe there is something worng with this type of action when in reality there really isnt.
As long as you do it with admiration.
They can tell the difference between a look of admiration and eye rape.
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