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The lesson here is, that no matter what your marital status is, one should be more tolerant and open minded to others peoples choices.
Wait, let me get this straight. Ascension, Mr. My-Way-Or-The-Highway, is lecturing others about being more open minded to others (sic) peoples (sic) choices? We really need a rolling-on-the-floor-laughing emoticon! All I can say is, in future posts about how to date, how to get women's attention, etc., please follow your own advice.
......is a sham or an outdated concept, when in real life its the married people that tend to be more judgmental of singles marital status. So perhaps before the next person says "he's 37 with a great career and handsome, why isnt he married, he must be gay or there must be something wrong with him" they can think back to this thread and remember what it feels like to be on the receiving end, when someone judges you in this fashion. Many young women are extremely cautious and will interrogate a guy who is in his late 30s, and has nbever been married or has any children. Many would prefer a man to have been already divorced or with a couple of kids, believe it or not.
Well there is certainly a difference between saying marriage is a sham/outdated concept vs. saying marriage isn't the right choice for me. For anyone who says this stuff, but has been in a long term live-in relationship, it is hard to take them seriously.
As for your point about men in their late thirties, and women preferring that he have kids/ be divorced vs. never been married. I think that really depends. Obviously the woman dating someone in his late thirties would be close to his age.....much younger women have more choices of men with no kids or no marriages. Certainly a thirty something woman is aware that the dating pool is going to contain a fair amount of guys with kids. To say that they would prefer it, though would be false. Dating someone with kids(that aren't yours) brings a lot of complexities vs. the person having no kids.
The lesson here is, that no matter what your marital status is, one should be more tolerant and open minded to others peoples choices. The reason I say this, is that I have noticed that married people in this thread or on CDR forum in general, seem to be offended when someone says marriage is a sham or an outdated concept, when in real life its the married people that tend to be more judgmental of singles marital status. So perhaps before the next person says "he's 37 with a great career and handsome, why isnt he married, he must be gay or there must be something wrong with him" they can think back to this thread and remember what it feels like to be on the receiving end, when someone judges you in this fashion. Many young women are extremely cautious and will interrogate a guy who is in his late 30s, and has nbever been married or has any children. Many would prefer a man to have been already divorced or with a couple of kids, believe it or not.
Odd. I know more than a few women who dont want kids or marriage who are looking for men in their 30's with neither.
Unfortunately, I'll probably need to get married somewhere between 40-45. I assume mom wants grandkids and I'm not a fan of going the baby mama route.
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I'm just trying to take others into consideration. Sure, if it were up to me, I'd stay single for the next 25+ years, but I realize there are certain expectations. Who wants to let down their parents?
And btw, my chasing wouldn't be limited to 20 year olds as I do enjoy cougars and middle age housewives.
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Almost 30.
However, I just wouldn't want to let my folks down, so as a result, I'll probably go and get married and have a kid or two. An ideal situation would be to just find a girl to have a kid with, live together, and have an open relationship. I'd be cool with that although I realize most females aren't into the open relationship arrangement.
They might be dead by then, so you might as well just forget it.
They do that because they are interested in marriage. What's so wrong about a marriage minded person screening out those who do not wish to be married or those who are unsuitable to marry?
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The lesson here is, that no matter what your marital status is, one should be more tolerant and open minded to others peoples choices. The reason I say this, is that I have noticed that married people in this thread or on CDR forum in general, seem to be offended when someone says marriage is a sham or an outdated concept, when in real life its the married people that tend to be more judgmental of singles marital status. So perhaps before the next person says "he's 37 with a great career and handsome, why isnt he married, he must be gay or there must be something wrong with him" they can think back to this thread and remember what it feels like to be on the receiving end, when someone judges you in this fashion. Many young women are extremely cautious and will interrogate a guy who is in his late 30s, and has nbever been married or has any children. Many would prefer a man to have been already divorced or with a couple of kids, believe it or not.
Unfortunately, I'll probably need to get married somewhere between 40-45. I assume mom wants grandkids and I'm not a fan of going the baby mama route.
Key word: assume. Do you know this for a fact? Maybe this is just your justification for your secret desire to get married. By the time you're in your 40's, you'll be losing testosterone, and your whole perspective will probably change, anyway. And btw, big boys don't structure their lives around momma's wishes, especially if a child might be involved. Just fyi.
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