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They do that because they are interested in marriage. What's so wrong about a marriage minded person screening out those who do not wish to be married or those who are unsuitable to marry?
So, someone who is already divorced is a marriage minded person? I just dont get it, it simply defies logic and common sense. And just because someone is in his thirties and has never been married or has any kids, doesnt mean they arent a marriage minded person or unsuitable to marry.
Someone who has been married before and is already a parent is likely to be willing to try again. Even if they protest and say never again if they feel they have found the right one they usually do try again.
A man in his 30s and beyond who has never married does need to be questioned because a marriage minded woman wants to know if it's because he just hasn't met the right one or if he is closed to the idea of marriage and children. If it's the former then a marriage minded girl could work with him if it's the latter than why waste time? A smart woman who is marriage minded is going to move on to the next one instead of trying to make him something that he doesn't want to be. Is that wrong?
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Originally Posted by Ascension2012
So, someone who is already divorced is a marriage minded person? I just dont get it, it simply defies logic and common sense. And just because someone is in his thirties and has never been married or has any kids, doesnt mean they arent a marriage minded person or unsuitable to marry.
Someone who has been married before and is already a parent is likely to be willing to try again. Even if they protest and say never again if they feel they have found the right one they usually do try again.
A man in his 30s and beyond who has never married does need to be questioned because a marriage minded woman wants to know if it's because he just hasn't met the right one or if he is closed to the idea of marriage and children. If it's the former then a marriage minded girl could work with him if it's the latter than why waste time? A smart woman who is marriage minded is going to move on to the next one instead of trying to make him something that he doesn't want to be. Is that wrong?
Its not wrong, but why not just ask the person. I briefly dated a 35 year old woman over the summer, and it was pretty evident that she wanted marriage and kids, to the point that it was unattractive and screamed of desperation. I told her my stance on marriage and kids just to be upfront and honest, yet she didnt seem satisfied with my honest position. She interrogated me daily about how come I havent been married before and how come I dont have any kids, always seemingly trying to uncover some dirt or something in my history that would cause this. It is what caused me to breakup with her because I was sick of being interrogated every day, by someone whom I communicated with in an open and honest fashion. I see similar behavior echoed by other women, and it only intensifies when their biological clock is ticking louder. I am just looking for a rational explanation on how can someone who failed at marriage be a better marriage material than someone ho has never been married.
Anyone who thinks it is right to be sexually shackled to only one person the rest of their life is unenlightened and ultimately boring.
And men who proclaim such things are generally "sexually shackled" to their right hand because no woman allows them to get within 10 miles of them. Have fun!
Because that's probably the longest I can delay it for plus I'd like for her to still be around to meet her grandchild.
Btw, that was not the point the other poster was trying to make.
Im not judging you by an means, but it would really benefit you to rethink your position. I would advise anyone to live their life for themselves and not anyone else. As another poster alreayd stated, I would bet anything that your mother would be more proud of a son who lives life to its fullest, than son who does things to please others.
I get a lot of heat for not getting married. Then the more money you make then the hotter the stove gets. As much as people claim that they don't judge. The stigma is still out there and they still do judge you. You're a dirty heathen who wants to sleep around with everybody and you're too selfish to "share" your life (damning your personal autonomy really) with someone else. They try to comfort themselves by saying that you're afraid to commit and you really want to get married or that you're a homosexual and so on. However, if they really wanted to get married then they would have done so.
I pretty much stop associating myself with my partner's family because they still give me Hell over it. It comes with the territory.
It's amazing that people don't think women get just as sick of marriage as men do! There's little or no difference. All this stereotyping, "women get fat after marriage" is absurd when most married men are fat sloths by the time they hit 40. Women also want sexual variety just as much as men do. This whole Forum is very strange in that countless threads act as if all men will f--- mud and all women are frigid. It's beyond bizarre and grossly inaccurate.
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