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Everyone has standards. Everyone has unwritten rules on who they would or wouldn't date.
Speak for yourself. You do not speak for everyone. You certainly do not speak for me.
I see no one as "beneath" me or "above" me. I evaluate every person individually on their own merits as individuals and do not put them in "Yes/No" boxes.
The only person I judge with any standards is myself. And the only standards I judge myself against are the person I was yesterday. I try to improve there person I am today over the person I was yesterday in some way. Be it physically, mentally or whatever. The only person I ever judge as being "better" or "worse" than me - is the me I was before now.
I think this is admirable but a bit utopia-ish. When choosing partners, many people consider the other person's career, wealth and status along with attraction. A few take it to extremes and date someone ONLY for those reasons, but that is not the majority. Most would not refuse the opportunity to date 'up'
You can have these dating standards while not view said person as beneath you. The statement is nonsense where it pertains to finances, education, etc. A man I view as beneath me is one who harms either verbally or physically. That's independent of SES.
I can't vote in this poll either. This "beneath you" is a lot of crap.
I never consider wealth, success, or if she drives a nice car. Those things mean nothing to me.
I rarely date but I am interested. A date is a big deal to me. A match is very difficult whether casual dating or a relationship. I'm not into one night stands so even if I go out on a date I would have to sense there is a chance something will work out. No big deal if it doesn't as the reality is chances are great that it won't.
I certainly have standards, or else I might actually be dating regularly. But I'm really hesitant to say the people I don't want to date are "beneath me". That phrase really holds a lot of arrogance, in my opinion. I've known a lot of women I had no desire to date, and in fact if they had asked me I would have turned them down. Yet if anything I felt they were too good for me, even though I wasn't attracted to them in any way.
We're all human- and I personally do not consider anyone above/below me ... I find people who think with that mentality to be a bit alarming. Those are the types you want to steer clear of. Mostly because they are negative, hateful, and miserable.
I try not to date "below." Nor do I really attempt to date "above," either. I'm all about "water seeks its own level." But that's me. Others can do what they want.
The truth is everyone dates up and down in every relationship. We trade our negatives for others positives and so do they. It's a matter of it they have got what we want and we have what they don't have and they want. But overall it should even up.
We're all human- and I personally do not consider anyone above/below me ... I find people who think with that mentality to be a bit alarming. Those are the types you want to steer clear of. Mostly because they are negative, hateful, and miserable.
This is a VERY attractive attitude.
I'll be honest. I would almost want to date you based on you saying this alone. I don't even know if you're a woman.
Rare attitude, even if you don't fully practice it, it makes a huge difference if you believe it.
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Like, why do you think you're better than them? What makes you so high and mighty?
