How do you explain to a guy that you think you have herpes?

[Apotamkin_Renesmee]

You explain it like this: "I think I may have herpes. So, until I get tested and the results turn out negative, we shouldn't be sexually intimate. I'm very embarrassed to tell you this, but I think you deserve to know..."

[mattywo85]

The best thing to do is just sit him down, be honest, and tell him you have herpes. I know its weird but it has to be done.

[Apotamkin_Renesmee]

Originally Posted by Sundance

There's no sense in your bringing this up before you're even confirmed to have it.
Don't be intimate with him until after you find out.
That's not dishonest.

It would be far more cruel to tell him something that will probably hurt him, than to hold off until you know what you're actually dealing with.

Don't say anything yet. Go get tested.

If she doesn't come clean with what she suspects about her sexual health, he's going to notice that she's shying away from being sexually intimate with him and he's going to wonder WHY she's behaving that way. If he asks her why she's being sexually distant, what is she going to tell him, if not the truth? Another lie, until the tests come back?

Honesty is the ONLY way the OP should handle this situation. He'll ADMIRE her and RESPECT her for her honesty (and if he doesn't, then he's not worth her time or her heart). How would her telling him the TRUTH "probaby hurt" him?! His "feelings"?

[ryazer24]

Originally Posted by Autumn07

Thank you.
Should I hold off on seeing him again til I see a doctor? What excuse could I give him?
We have kissed but that's it.

Do you think the test results could come back pretty quick?

I haven't known him for long- but yes, I do really like him. He seems to really like me too- as he kept telling me so.
That's another reason why this is so hard for me. He has been so sweet to me and keeps complementing me. I feel like I don't deserve to be treated so nice.

best advice is to see him and then tell him you don't want to take it too fast and you have other matters that come first but he's the one for you. Thanks i enjoyed the date and give him a hug and thats it and go in. Tell him you forgot to kiss him?!?! because you were in a rush to get into the house/apartment/condo/whatever you live in and you're sorry i dont know. im trying here

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[Pear Martini]

google pictures of herpes and send them to him on facebook